Allow yourself the experience of processing what is happening around you. Whether you feel grief, shame, or anger, maybe happiness, hope, and joy, perhaps even neutral emotions like boredom, emotions direct you in understanding what each moment means to you. Listen to your emotions and your body. What you need to know or learn right now is being shown to you. Pay attention.
What is something you would like to learn? What are some of your interests? What are you curious about?
I want to learn how to cook better for myself, continue to regulate and manage my anxiety, market my etsy shop better .
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Healing Letters of Reflection:
[Topics- Codependency and Anxious Attachment]
I understand now. I understand what I was meant to learn. How I was in pain too. But, I was trying to make you love me, even though you didn’t want to. I’m sorry. You were in pain like me. The cycles of run and chase. I saw something I knew I could love, so I latched onto that feeling. I was wrong though. Because, I was in pain and needed to manage and take care of my heart first. I needed to love myself more and I didn’t. I wanted to love you because I saw myself in you. Maybe loving you would help me love myself? No. That’s not how that works. Being alone was scary. It was a step into an oblivion of nothingness. What am I to do with all this pain I feel into an unknown future? Can I do it? Wow, do I even believe in myself? Who am I? What do I even want? It’s the ideas, the potential, the feeling. It’s the fear of changing into a person I don’t know.
…Well I’m that person now. The person I was scared to become because, who is she? She can see. She gets it. She understands.
I understand now. That I was in pain. I was panicking. Trauma responses left and right. Trying to fix. Fixate. Control. Overexplain. Change someone else. I was the one who needed changing. But, that’s okay…because I understand now. So, thank you. You helped me to see, because everything was foggy back then. I hope everything is good with you. I hope you can understand, too.
Write a letter to someone who helped you to grow.
This season has presented many changes in my life, and with those changes a rebirth in understanding what self-care, self-worth, abundance, attraction and expectation mean to me. I learned that sometimes we need to walk away from people, places, and things that we care about and love. This doesn’t mean we no longer care and love these people, places, and things, but it does mean that until we are able to love, cherish, and value ourselves, there is a lack in what we can offer.
When we give from a place of lack, we deplete ourselves of the limited energy we posses because we are constantly giving to others. We are filling voids instead of nourishing and aiding through our passions and gifts.
Once we step away to feed and nourish ourselves and to see the immersearable value that is us, we can share the unconditional love we have for ourselves but with others. We no longer cling to unrealistic expectations that we will find what we are looking for outside of ourselves, but realize what we are looking for is us, it’s alignment and balance within who we are. We identify triggers, put our needs first, ask for support when needed, undo generational trauma and have those hard conversations. What do I need? Where do I fit in this conversation? What am I learning?
We no longer run when we feel uncomfortable but sit in that discomfort to ask ourselves the right question: what is this teaching me? Lack of a lesson is also a lesson, a lesson of letting go and moving forward regardless of understanding. Understanding that we move forward for the simple fact that we deserve better then the situation or circumstance.
Believe that you can experience abundance and peace because it is accessible, you have it already. Say it out loud: I am abundance, peace is within me. It’s okay to feel pain, sadness, grief, and worry, but know that you don’t have to dwell in these emotions. Free yourself from the expectations that what you need is somewhere anywhere else then inside of you already.
Feel the freedom of letting go and learn what it means to unconditionally love yourself. Manifest and affirm that with aligning yourself with love that love with then attract itself to you.
Manifest: I am love.I am ready for love. I receive love.
I finished my fourth certification!
I’m so excited to share that I’ve completed my journal therapy certification! It took so much determination and focus, but I’ve learned so much. I will use what I’ve learned from this course to continue to write engaging content and thoughtful prompts and guided questions BUT ALSO will be adding printables worksheets, cards, and prompts to my Etsy shop!
**You can find all of my certifications above on the certifications page.
Value, worth, and beauty are all a part of who we are. Intrinsic beauty, the beauty that encapsulates our essence, shows in how we own and accept how we move, think, and exists. We all have this beauty. What I find most difficult in owning this beauty is manifesting and speaking about what this beauty looks like.
Intrinsic beauty can be our hobbies, what makes us smile, the process of our self-discovery, our passions and ambitions, healing and advocacy, our favorite physical feature, what we are proud of ourselves for and why, and owning our purpose. Owning intrinsic beauty is figuring out what makes us who we are and acknowledging that it is real.
I challenge you to list 5 things that make you intrinsically beautiful. What makes you who you are? How has your experiences shaped your beauty?
For me, the journey to manifesting my intrinsic beauty just started. I’m excited to understand more about myself and what makes me feel at peace and at home.
Here are the five things that make me beautiful:
1. My active self-awareness and ambition to become more of myself every day.
2. My empathy and high sensitivity.
3. My open mind and creativity.
4. My smile.
5. The ability I have to understand multiple perspectives at once.
Although a lot of these things weren’t on my list before, they are now, and I will no longer dismiss and ignore those parts of myself.
Setting and following through with goals can be tiring, time-consuming, and requires dedication. Deciding why a goal is important can help to navigate the likelihood of you following through with accomplishing what you want to do.
Why is setting goals important to you?
-Why is setting goals important?
-What value do goals have in helping you get where you want to go?
Goals are important to me because they help me to stay grounded and focused. Without a focal point to channel my overactive imagination, I typically sleep or dwell on wanting to do more without knowing how. Goals help me to feel a sense of purpose and accomplishment.
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Write a thank you letter to the biggest lesson you’ve learned this year.
The letter can be written to a person, place, thing, or idea and can be written as creativity as possible. It can rhyme and mimic a poem, or simply be a list of things you’ve learned. The letter can be about a lesson you’re still learning or have learned earlier this year.
Questions to get you thinking:
-What is the lesson?
-Why is the lesson important to you?
-What has the lesson taught you about yourself?
-Has the lesson changed your perspective in any way?
-What does self-care and self-reflection look like after learning this lesson?
The goal of this letter is to reflect and move forward in grace as you progress further into this year.
Dear Change and Transformation,
Thank you for allowing me to see everything that is me. From the sensitivities to the pain that binds me. I am more than I ever thought I can be, and that is creating something huge inside of me.
I thought I was nothing and constantly needed validation. But, I’m learning to be still and take one moment at a time.
I am important, too. And that’s big coming from me. I don’t have to fix everything to be seen.
I can smile and be happy.
I can manifest abundance.
I am beautiful.
I am not too different or unworthy.
I can be loved, too.
The more space I make within myself to manifest the thoughts that can shape a better tomorrow, I welcome. I welcome peace and acceptance.
These are all from you Change and Transformation, so thank you.
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Growth and Transformation Through Awareness: Pain and Toxic Traits
We all have a way in which we think and act based on our beliefs and ideas. Sometimes, however, our judgment and growth are clouded by the pain and trauma we often recycle through our toxic habits and behaviors.
The tricky thing about pain is how deeply rooted it is. We don’t see our behavior as toxic or hurtful until it’s too late and we’ve already hurt someone we might care for.
In order to identify those toxic cycles, we must grow in self-awareness. The more self-aware we become, the more we are able to catch ourselves and understand why we act the way we do. Although some behaviors may appear harmless, like numbing our feelings and trying not to cope with our pain, if repressed for too long, will eventually appear in our behavior.
Projection occurs when we place how we treat ourselves onto the people we love or want to love. Often unconsciously our own self-abandonment is how we begin to treat those around us.
The first step in feeling our pain is to accept that we’ve hurt someone and forgive ourselves. If we hold onto the pain and regret, it will stay with us and lead how we treat those who enter our lives.
Once aware, begin the process of identifying in what ways we can improve and begin to love ourselves in that process. Although we can’t undo another person’s pain, we can improve and heal through our own. We must learn who we are and the pain that guided our past self.
The growth that self-awareness brings can resurface memories and thoughts that created the original pain, but that process will birth a transformed perspective.
We learn through experiences and wanting to do better. Without the urge to do better, the pain will validate itself and remain how we see ourselves.
Important note: This process can be difficult to do on our own but I found therapy, self-help books, meditation, writing, reflective exercises, support groups, and mental health resources to be a great help in beginning this process.
“Have you ever wanted to be taller? Or maybe felt less than because your grades weren’t the best in the class? Ever felt yourself changing in ways that weren’t really like you to fit into a crowd? Comparing ourselves to others and stunting our sense of self-worth to be more like the people around us harms our views of who we are. The more we compare and strive to be what we are not, the more we lose what we are and who we want to become.
How do we shift comparing ourselves to others to accepting and growing in self-love?”
“A gratitude list is a list of things, places, people, situations, or traits about ourselves that we are grateful for. Creating a gratitude list helps us to reflect and think through what’s good about our experiences and life overall. Building a habit of gratitude increases our awareness, knowledge, and point of contact when we find ourselves comparing our lives with others.”
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This is my writing story. How it started…
Finding My Voice: SparklyWarTanks
I started blogging in 2015 following a class project in my senior year of college. Unaware of the impact writing will have on my mental health, I maintained a steady habit. When I felt anxious, depressed or even inspired and ready to take over the world, I wrote something. No matter the circumstance or situation, I continued to write. I called this new ignited excitement for writing SparklyWarTanks, a phrase that combines the ideas of being “pretty and ”together” with also being at ”war” and ”struggling.”
SparklyWarTanks became an extension of me, who I wanted to become and the perspective I wished to build. My everyday writing changed and transformed into therapy writing; writing about pain, acceptance, identity, and struggle. I wrote to feel free, to challenge myself, and to improve my mental wellness. Writing gave me strength, peace, and my own voice.
Finding My Voice: Asking Important Questions
As SparklyWarTanks progressed during the first year, themes and patterns emerged in my writing style. I began to write mental health articles along with my motivational and creative content. Eager to build a more stable and workable sense of self, I felt refreshed when my imagination flooded with ideas.
To keep the content flowing, I often asked myself important questions. Whether these questions were related to me directly, or for my target audience to grapple with (mostly young adults, especially women, figuring themselves out), my goal was to challenge notions of self-development and self-acceptance. I wanted to construct a progressive view of growth.
Some of the questions were, but not limited to:
- How do I feel?
- How do I want/deserve to feel?
- Who am I?
- Who am I becoming?
- What do I want to achieve?
Through writing, I began to create and mold myself while also advocating for a communal and collective sense of awareness for my readers. As a community, what do we need to do to improve how we see ourselves? I wanted to help others while also helping myself. I wanted my growth to help others grow as well.
Continuing in the present…
Writing and Creative Expression: Creativity and Mental Health
Progressing in my writing craft and finding who I want to be through my projects and perspective is nothing short of soul-satisfying. Writing and creative expression not only helps me build a new perspective on growth, vulnerability, and self-awareness but also helps me manage my depressive and anxious symptoms as well. The more I write and ask myself important questions, the more I’m able to identify my t riggers and heal through them.
Different genres and approaches I experiment with in my writing include:
- Motivational Quotes
Topics such as self-talk, self-care, self-love, self-worth, power, reflection and potential guide my views and shift how I think, especially during the tough days. I write to think through what I believe; I write to build and create my truth. Mental
health and self-development now connect with one another. How I want to feel includes taking care of myself physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Are you thinking of starting a writing habit?
Next Steps: You Can Write Too
Writing can be for all of us. Whether for fun, to vent, or to get your thoughts onto something and out of your head, writing can help! Writing can be whatever you make of it. If it’s to share or to keep to yourself, whatever you create is something to be proud of.
Consider these questions when starting to write:
- Why am I writing?
- What do I want to write about?
- What do I want to say?
- Who do I want to say it to?
- What overall message do I want to portray?
Need help? You can check out my SkillShare class to get started!