Yes, I’ve been rejected.
Yes, I’ve been ghosted.
Yes, I’ve been ignored.
Yes, I’ve been pushed to the side.
Also, yes, I thought because this happened so often I was somehow unlovable, ugly, unworthy of attention or love. I thought I deserved this because something was “wrong” with me and I needed to “fix” myself so others would want me.
25 years and counting and now I know that I am not a reflection of how I was treated, of the countless times I didn’t feel good enough. I know now I am worthy of love, affection, and attention. This does not mean, however, that no one will reject, ghost, or push me to the side; but this does mean that I have the choice to not allow someone else’s behavior to reflect how I see my worth.
My worth and value are intrinsic. No one can take away my worth.
So, if you ever find yourself questioning your worth because of how someone else treated you, STOP. Always remember that you are worthy, enough, valuable, lovable, and beautiful. No one can take those ineffaceable things from you.
The more you learn to love yourself, the easier it will become to not allow other people’s actions to sway how you see everything you already are.
Have you ever felt yourself beginning to “spiral?” What is “spiraling?” How can you regain control and focus when you find yourself overthinking into an emotional and uncomfortable place mentally?
Find out in my Defying Shadows article!
Pushing to a workable perspective means knowing who we are apart from the struggles we face; knowing we are much more than the hardship we experience.
As we progress, we must first declare what we are more than. Whether it’s that one negative thought, that mental health condition, the low self-esteem, or the chronic pain, WE ARE MORE.
We are multifaceted, talented, spectacular warriors that regardless of what we experience, we are still more than and we keep going.
This is what I am more than:
- I am more than those negative thoughts.
- I am more than depression.
- I am more than anxiety.
- I am more than low self-esteem.
- I am more than self-doubt.
- I am more than worrying.
- I am more than isolation.
Tell me what you are more than.
Using this @riteintherain journal and pen I will write in all types of weathers, in my bad rainy days and good sunny ones, on the days that are challenging, I will write.
Today I will remind myself that I am enough.
Enough on my own without the attention of others.
Enough even when it’s hard to get out of bed.
Enough to eat.
Enough to write.
I will always be enough.
What are your goals? What do you want to accomplish short term or long term?
Goals are what keep us on track. We set goals to hold ourselves accountable for our time and effort. Goals can be personal, professional, spiritual, etc. Visualize what you want to do and create goals that match that vision. Plan as many short term goals as you need to work toward your bigger vision.
Reminder: Be mindful of your limits and self-care when creating goals. Be realistic. Create as many smaller goals as you need to work toward what you want. It’s also okay to network and talk to others about your vision. Seek help.
To-Do List Reflection
- Goal 1: Keep self-care a priority.
- Make sure to get enough sleep.
- Drink tea to calm my nerves and anxiety.
- Eat fruits and veggies and keep junk food at a minimum.
- Ask for help when needed.
- Keep busy and go outside.
- Goal 2: Creating different avenues of income.
- Research different writing and non-writing opportunities.
- Plan more Mighty events to host.
- Create more online courses.
- Sticker shop!
- Create a writing calendar.
- Write 2 articles a month.
- Write content for SparklyWarTanks at least 3 times a week.
- Create new projects.
- Keep up with creating activities to post on The Mighty.
What are you overcoming? What are you resolving within yourself? Is there any progress in parts of you that you wish to improve? What does that progress look like?
In overcoming obstacles or challenges, it’s important to be gentle with yourself and the process. Relief will follow the more comfortable you become with the discomfort of change. Overcoming is the continuous work that comes with adjusting to growth.
Reflection: Of the major obstacles I work on daily, building my self-esteem, improving in confidence, and establishing that I’m important are the top three. I’m constantly working on and overcoming the urge to isolate myself because of these obstacles and I’ve come so far!
Goal: Getting to a place where I don’t hold myself back in any way. I want to be able to exert confidence in a way that reveals the power I know I have.
What makes you strong? What have you been working on, building up, becoming better at, good in, and achieving?
Everything you do and continue to do in the process of becoming more of yourself makes you strong. No matter how big or small, your progress is a sign of power and bravery.
My effort makes me strong.
Despite people not understanding me, questioning me, and looking at me different I keep going.
Despite being highly sensitive/an empath, getting easily overwhelmed, feeling tired often, having anxiety, battling depression, I keep trying.
Declaration: With everything I am and all that I see myself becoming, I will continue to put in constant effort.
What do you see yourself becoming? What is your overall vision? What does a constant state of healing or thriving look like for you?
To have goals means to see an outcome or idea come to life. Ideally, if you can craft what success would look like for you, how would you describe it? Create the image of what you want to accomplish then start becoming more and more of what that success is for you.
When I think of success, I think of who I want to be, and what I want to become. Being able to network, open up, and communicate with others is an important aspect of my vision of success. In order to get my creative vision flourishing, speaking with others and gaining different types of resources is important.
Success for me is also self-awareness. Self-awareness is my main tool for healing. The more I know me, the more I’m able to gain control and feel how I want to feel.
Goal/Affirmation: I am who my own purpose and I will work toward becoming successful in the ways that fit me.
Whether we believe it or not we are progressing! With every goal we achieve, no matter how small, or every time we do something we didn’t think we could, we are becoming better.
Better can mean more aware, more accessible, or even an increase in willingness. With each step, we are becoming better at what helps us.
Calmness is the ultimate mental space I wish to be in at all times. With anxiety and depression, it’s difficult to calm myself, especially during an emotional downward spiral. Each time I’m able to calm myself, I’m learning to take control of every moment.
Affirmation: With every breath, I have the choice to remain in a constant state of calmness.
You can find this reflection card on my Mighty page here.