Mighty Newsletter Reflection
“Ever since I can remember, I’ve struggled with perfectionism and negative self-talk. From the daily “I have to finish everything on my to-do list or else I’m unsuccessful today” to the weekly feeling of fear that I’m not putting in enough effort toward my goals — this constant spiral of always having to do more is exhausting. And because perfectionism has me constantly in a “doing trance,” I haven’t felt accomplished or proud of any of my wonderful achievements in a long time.
However, in my efforts to get rid of the dictator that is perfectionism, I recently crafted some stars to put on the walls of my bedroom. These stars mean more to me than just colorful construction paper in the shape of an astronomical object.
Every day when I look at my stars, I am reminded that I’m successful and have achieved so much to get to this very moment. My success is not measured by how much I’ve done but simply by who I am and the strength I give each day. Simply waking up is enough reason to look up at my stars stamping that day as an achievement.
Here are 3 possible ways you could celebrate your own accomplishments:
– Share your achievements with a family member or friend and do a fun activity with them
– Write a list of the wins that make you proud, put it on your refrigerator and pass it often
– Take a mental health day where you reward yourself with all of your favorites, like a TV show or movie, a great read or a meal comprised of your fave snacks.
Takeaway: Your worth is so much more than what you do each day – it’s naturally ingrained in who you are. It can never be taken away.
Note: You can find the stickers on my stars here in my Etsy shop!
Pencil Case Prompt Activity
What’s one way you can celebrate yourself?
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If you made a 10 track album and called it “2020” what would you name the 10 songs in your album?
Note: The song titles can reflect what you’ve learned, your struggles, a memory, how you were feeling, etc. Feel free to be creative!
My 2020 Album Song titles would be:
1. Broken Anxiety
2. PDD and PTSD
4. Letters to Peace
5. Power in Distance
7. Who is she?
9. Gone With The People-Pleasing
10. Should I Care?
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Make a list of 10 people, places, things, or ideas you are grateful for.
Note: Feel free to be creative, reflective, and thoughtful.
What helps you to feel calm?
What do you look forward to?
Who is important to you?
What ideas help you to keep going?
What places help you feel relaxed or safe?
I’m grateful for:
1. Moments of peace and clarity.
2. My family and friends.
3. My pillows.
5. My therapist and doctors.
6. Kind-hearted and authentic people.
7. Healing and letting go.
10. My bedroom.
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I’m so excited to share that I participated in the NAMI-NYC Seeds of Hope Gala! It was an amazing experience for me to share some of my story and use my voice to help such an impactful non-profit organization. I’ve been volunteering with NAMI-NYC for almost a year and a half, first as an ending the silence young adult presenter, to an expressive arts workshop host, to a young adult support group facilitator.
Watch the full video here!
If you ever wrote a book what would that book be about? (If you already wrote a book, do you want to write another one?)
-What genre would the book be in?
– Are there characters in your book? Who would the main character be?
-Would your book have a lesson?
Let me know in the comments below or feel free to journal about this prompt!
If I ever wrote a book it would be nonfiction and a mixture of my creative and reflective writing.
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Release the tension in your shoulders, sit straight, and breathe. Give yourself time, space, and the grace necessary to let go of anything you are holding on to. Allow the ebbs and flows of the process to teach you what you need to progress and move forward.
- What makes you feel frustrated or unhappy?
- What memories resurface?
- Who can you ask for help?
- How can you prioritize yourself better?
- What are your next steps in processing your emotional healing?
- What do you need?
Listen to your body.
Listen to your triggers.
Affirm you are ready to move forward.
Comment below what snack represents what type of positivity and power boost you need this week from your self-care menu.
- Bravery Cupcake
- Cookies of Courage
- Fortune Cookie of Peace.
- Freshly Picked Fruit Basket of Support.
- Patient Chocolate Bar.
- Energy Flavored Ice Cream.
- Rainbow Candies of Rest.
- Confidence Boost Milkshake.
Feel free to choose as many snacks as you want!
I am in need of a fortune cookie of peace, energy flavored ice cream, and rainbow candies of rest.
: I am powerful and use positivity to help me move forward.
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What color drink describes how this week is going for you?
Comment with the color drink that describes how this week is going so far:
Yellow- Okay, I guess.
Gray- Not so great.
Pink- It was challenging, would like support.
Reminder: You are doing the best you can and that is always good enough.
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Pick a self-kindness affirmation card to accompany you through the rest of the week:
1. I am enough.
2. I give myself permission to rest.
3. I give myself space to learn and grow.
4. It’s okay for me to ask for help.
5. My worth is not dependent on how much I get done.
6. I honor my needs by resting when my body tells me to.
Feel free to add your own affirmation!
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Sometimes the world around me is a lot to process — noises are too loud, lights too bright and my thoughts often fall down a never-ending spiral. I care deeply for the people around me and wish I could do more. It’s like I’m an emotional sponge.
I’m no stranger to feeling overwhelmed and I catch myself retreating in order to feel better again. I regain my energy with creativity and love to reflect so I can better understand myself and others. My brain likes looking at the bigger picture but does so through subtleties. I see patterns and small details and my favorite questions are “why?” and “how?”
However, being highly sensitive has made me susceptible to scrutiny and criticism. I’m often “too much” or “too deep” for the liking of some people. I remember once being told, “You make things too difficult and complex and would benefit from being more simple.” That isn’t who I am though, and I shouldn’t be ashamed of how sensitive I am. It’s taken me some time to fully understand and accept my emotional nature and to perceive it as an ability instead of a burden.
While feeling deeply is no walk in the park, I am proud of how far I’ve come in my journey of self-love. But I know I still have so much more to learn. If you are a highly sensitive person like me, know that you are not alone. No matter what, you are not “too much” and I’m happy to walk this journey with you..
What are your experiences like as a highly sensitive person?
Can You Relate? Let’s Reflect!
To my highly sensitive people, we are in this together.
No matter what, you are not “too much” and I’m happy to walk this sensitivity journey with you. If you find yourself overwhelmed or overstimulated check out these reflective guided questions, they’ve helped me navigate my sensitivities:
- How are you feeling?
- Do you feel overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated, or overstimulated? Where and when do you feel this way?
- Are you overextending your energy?
- When was the last time you took a break?
- Do you need time alone?
- What places help you feel safe?
- What are your triggers and how can you manage them?
- What is in your control?
- What are your needs? How can you prioritize your needs better?
- What are your limits? What are you okay/not okay with?
- Do you need to write down your thoughts or talk them out?
- Who can you ask for help?
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An important part of following through with achieving your goals is knowing and believing you can achieve them. Building confidence is knowing what you’re capable of then crafting and creating goals that reflect what you want and see yourself achieving.
How can you build confidence in the goals you set?
Are the goals you’re setting reflective of your needs and interests?
Do you believe you can achieve the goals you set?
I can build better confidence around my daily goals by being more patient with myself and giving myself credit when I accomplish something. Once I learn to be proud of myself even if I still have work to finish, I can become more comfortable in continuing what I need to do to get where I want to be.
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