Love does not only mend and improve the bonds we have with each other but also liberates the relationship we have with ourselves. Creating pathways and pockets of grace to face the challenges of our childhood trauma, survival habits, triggers, and attachment to expectations.
When we open the door to love ourselves unconditionally we create bridges to enter parts of ourselves we are used to hiding away. We welcome wholeness and alignment. We accept every part of who we are. Love becomes the language that guides our inner dialogue and helps us to understand our next steps.
As we love ourselves unconditionally and unapologetically, we can love others the same. We interact and speak with others just as we would ourselves. Let love in. Let love create the way.
Image quote above will be made into a sticker for my Etsy shop at the end of the month!
You are not too far from love, even if you feel alone and no one cares. You are not too far from community or support. It’s okay if you are struggling and need help sometimes. There is no shame in wanting to connect with others, to feel like you’re a part of something, or simply want to be around like-minded people. You are not too far off or far gone to access people that understand. The love you seek exist. You are never too far away.
Allow yourself the experience of processing what is happening around you. Whether you feel grief, shame, or anger, maybe happiness, hope, and joy, perhaps even neutral emotions like boredom, emotions direct you in understanding what each moment means to you. Listen to your emotions and your body. What you need to know or learn right now is being shown to you. Pay attention.
Friendly reminder that relationships, whether romantic, familial, or platonic deserve to be tended to with effort, consistency, balance, reciprocity, and respect.
Note: You are not “too much”. It’s okay to stand up for yourself. Accept only what you deserve.
Side Note: Having needs doesn’t mean you are “needy.” Understand the work you need to do within yourself to grow in self-awareness. Know the difference between what you need from yourself and what healthy balanced relationships looks like for you.
Not everyone you meet will be apart of your story. Not everyone you know will remain in your story. The ones that stay, return, or want to make the relationship work regardless of the challenges and differences will be well worth the effort.
It’s okay to be gentle with yourself during transitions in your life. Whether it be moving to a new home, changing doctors/therapists, trying something new, starting a new job/change in finances, changing schools, losing friends, experiencing a breakup, grieving the loss of a love one, or letting go of someone you love and care about, transitions are difficult to cope with.
Learning to adjust and adapt to change is challenging and that’s okay. Know that you are not alone and you can give yourself time to grieve whatever it is you are moving forward from.
Give yourself permission to feel whatever emotions come up with change and reach out if you need to. Your feelings and experiences are valid no matter how “big” or “small” the change.
Every day we are given the opportunity to make different decisions, ones that are more reflective of the person we want to become, more of the person we are working on creating.
Create and craft the reality that reveals the growth and lessons learned along the path you’ve taken. Continue and move forward, not dwelling on the past, but in greater awareness of yourself.
Forgive yourself and do better, better as defined by you, just because you deserve it. You deserve peace, healing, growth, and abundance. You have peace, you are healing, you are growing, and you are abundant.
Take one step and one moment at a time as you face the pain you’ve carried up to this point. Release and relax. Allow yourself the space to feel what you’ve been holding on to.
Take that leap to move in the direction of change. You are deserving of the reality you envision for yourself.
Affirmation: I am learning and growing every day. I make decisions that are best for me. I am deserving of love, acceptance and peace. I am ready.