I love you.
I love you.
Healing Letters of Reflection:
[Topics- Codependency and Anxious Attachment]
I understand now. I understand what I was meant to learn. How I was in pain too. But, I was trying to make you love me, even though you didn’t want to. I’m sorry. You were in pain like me. The cycles of run and chase. I saw something I knew I could love, so I latched onto that feeling. I was wrong though. Because, I was in pain and needed to manage and take care of my heart first. I needed to love myself more and I didn’t. I wanted to love you because I saw myself in you. Maybe loving you would help me love myself? No. That’s not how that works. Being alone was scary. It was a step into an oblivion of nothingness. What am I to do with all this pain I feel into an unknown future? Can I do it? Wow, do I even believe in myself? Who am I? What do I even want? It’s the ideas, the potential, the feeling. It’s the fear of changing into a person I don’t know.
…Well I’m that person now. The person I was scared to become because, who is she? She can see. She gets it. She understands.
I understand now. That I was in pain. I was panicking. Trauma responses left and right. Trying to fix. Fixate. Control. Overexplain. Change someone else. I was the one who needed changing. But, that’s okay…because I understand now. So, thank you. You helped me to see, because everything was foggy back then. I hope everything is good with you. I hope you can understand, too.
Write a letter to someone who helped you to grow.
What is a fun fact or important detail about you?
A fun fact about me is I LOVE comfort items like pillows, soft blankets, and stuffed animals.
One important detail about me is that resting is really essential for my mental and physical health. Being highly sensitive, I burn out quicker then others.
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Ever had a conversation with your higher self, realizing that in those moments the words you speak are also the words you would say to the people you love the most.
Growing in self-love is learning to treat yourself like you would treat someone you love and would want them to be kind to themselves. Encouraging them to keep going and to be strong because you see that in them. As much as you see the strength in them is also the strength that is present in you.
Treat yourself with kindness today. Allow yourself grace through the toughest moment. Remember that emotions don’t make you weak, especially the ones that weigh heavy on your heart.
You are worthy of love and acceptance. No one can take away your strength. No one can strip you of your worth.
I love you.
In the journey of higher consciousness is the transformation and heightened awareness of the self. The ego death is the process of moving past the self’s initial definion — in the context of trauma, duality, and bias, not reverting back to trauma of trigger responses, black and white thinking, or surviving. Instead, this “death” is a surrendering of sorts to a new way of thinking and practiced awareness to rewire and create a reality that is reflective of abundance and wholeness.
The ego, in its creation, thrived on the limited perspective and perceptions of the child, an infantile thinking. As growing older permits, a new birth of understanding pushes it’s way through in order to pave the way for change in the process of enlightenment.
To become enlightened, to awaken, or to elevate means to make space in your consciousness, space not allowed previously due to ego expectations and standards. This new space will allow for intuitive thinking, unconditional love of self, and integration of shadow.
As the process of ego death is painful, as it means letting go of conditioning, it is the process of alchamizing the infantile mind to one of radical self-acceptance and self-awareness. This process allows for seeing and knowing who the self really is in its power and abilities.
The self no longer needs the validation or acceptance of anything outside of itself. Everything needed lies inward.
Affirmation: Everything that I need, I already have. My reality is created by me.
Divine timing teaches us that the version of ourselves that we are now is not yet aligned with the potential, power, and magnitude of what we’ve been asking for and know is ours. At this time we must work on ourselves. Work on our growth, our doubt, our shadow, and our thoughts. It’s time to walk in abundance, gratitude, and clarity understanding that what we manifest we will receive. Claim what is ours with confidence.
That career that you want is yours, that relationship that you deserve with the person you love is yours, that house, that car, that wealth, that peace of mind, that healing, that health, that relief is yours! Listen to yourself, you know what is yours. You know what you need. Start doing the work. You can be the version of yourself that receives what you’re manifesting. Are you ready for it? Start to progress toward what is yours.
In the process of growth we may come to a standstill in whether we want or are able to face the trauma inside of ourselves. We become afraid of feeling the feelings that are repressed. In those moments we ask ourselves, what do I do with this pain? Unprocessed pain manifests as disease, disorders, attachments, triggers, habits, negativity and other blockages that show us a lack or need in the energy within us. So what, in turn, do we do with the pain in our bodies? We must release it. We are not meant to suffer and hold on to pain for long periods of time. If we survived the process of enduring this pain we are also able to alchemize it. Standing in our power allows us to transform and create something new in the process of releasing the pain that we may be holding. We are the creators of our own realities.
Alchemize your pain and transform into the indestructable being you are. Stand in your power. Allow the pain to be transformed in your favor. Learn the lesson and release the blockage. The lesson turns into an increase in awareness. You have all the abilities to do so. Pain does not define you and does not have to define or dictate your life.
I believe in you.
It’s okay to ask for support.
It’s okay if you need some help.
It’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to seek guidance.
It’s okay to reach out and ask for what you need.
It’s okay to advocate for yourself.
Speak your truth. We need to hear your story.
Take your power back from fear, doubt, and hesitancy. Claim your freedom to walk in your power unapologetically. Grow more into yourself. Speak. Know the strength in your words. What is for you is already yours.
You know what you need to do to get where you need to go. Step into your power as you tune into your awareness. Believe in your ability to make good decisions. It’s okay to make mistakes, mistakes are staircases to knowledge and understanding. Learn and listen. Pay attention. You got it. There’s no need to doubt yourself.
Use these affirmations:
1. I am in control.
2. I know who I am.
3. I am enough.
4. I create my reality.
5. I am abundance.
6. I trust myself.
7. I make good decisions.
8. I have good ideas.
9. I am successful.