Posted in Confessions, Creative Writing, Love, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Reflection, Self-Talk, What Just Happened: Personal Anecdotes

Healing Letters of Reflection: Unspoken Words

Healing Letters of Reflection
[Topics- Codependency and Anxious Attachment]

I understand now. I understand what I was meant to learn. How I was in pain too. But, I was trying to make you love me, even though you didn’t want to. I’m sorry. You were in pain like me. The cycles of run and chase. I saw something I knew I could love, so I latched onto that feeling. I was wrong though. Because, I was in pain and needed to manage and take care of my heart first. I needed to love myself more and I didn’t. I wanted to love you because I saw myself in you. Maybe loving you would help me love myself? No. That’s not how that works. Being alone was scary. It was a step into an oblivion of nothingness. What am I to do with all this pain I feel into an unknown future? Can I do it? Wow, do I even believe in myself? Who am I? What do I even want? It’s the ideas, the potential, the feeling. It’s the fear of changing into a person I don’t know.

…Well I’m that person now. The person I was scared to become because, who is she? She can see. She gets it. She understands. 

I understand now. That I was in pain. I was panicking. Trauma responses left and right. Trying to fix. Fixate. Control. Overexplain. Change someone else. I was the one who needed changing. But, that’s okay…because I understand now. So, thank you. You helped me to see, because everything was foggy back then. I hope everything is good with you. I hope you can understand, too. 

Activity

Write a letter to someone who helped you to grow.

Posted in Mental Health, Self-Care, Self-Talk, The Mighty, The Pencil Case on The Mighty

Pencil Case Prompts: Fun Facts and Important Details

Activity

What is a fun fact or important detail about you? 

My Reflection


A fun fact about me is I LOVE comfort items like pillows, soft blankets, and stuffed animals. 

One important detail about me is that resting is really essential for my mental and physical health. Being highly sensitive,  I burn out quicker then others. 

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Posted in Events, Mental Health, Self-Care

NAMI-NYC Virtual Expressive Arts Event: Beauty and Horizons

So very excited to announce the NAMI-NYC Expressive Arts workshop event I will be hosting at the end of the month!  This event will be via Zoom and on the NAMI-NYC website. You can find the link here and clicking the Expressive Arts Zoom link for July 31st, 2021.

If you have any questions or concerns feel free to send me an email. The time of the event is in Eastern Standard Time.

**I will share any updates or changes and keep everyone posted. 

Here are some details for the event:

Title

Beauty and Horizons 

Description

“Beauty and Horizons” is a creative and fun event focused on reflecting on ourselves, our beauty and who we see ourselves to be. Starting with an ice breaker, we will sketch an image and write about one accomplishment that we are most proud of. The main activity will then be to imagine and draw a sunset on the beach. Around the sunset we will list 10 reasons why we are beautiful. Lastly, we will close by sharing our works of art.

Materials

Paper, writing utensils (pen, pencil, markers, or crayons).

Hope to see you there!

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, MotivateBySWT, Self-Care

Motivation By SparklyWarTanks Etsy Shop Mood Trackers!

Visit my Etsy shop MotivateBySWT and check out my new mood trackers!

Each Mood Tracker is two parts with an added list of moods to aid in reflection and brainstorming. Part one of this mood tracker will prompt you to identify what mood you are feeling every day during the month. Once you’ve identified your mood you will fill in each apple, Candy piece, puzzel piece, raindrop, or balloon with the color that identifies the different moods you are feeling. Part two, then, is a three question reflection activity that will allow you to think through your experience.

Print these mood tracker in color or printer friendly version to help with perspective building, insight, self-awareness, and self-reflection! 

Posted in Creative Writing, Love, Potential and Worth, Power

I Met Peace Today

A spoken work peace in accessing peace following times I’ve struggled with mental health. Identifying and defining what peace means to me. Watch the video here on YouTube!

I met peace today.  I didn’t expect it to feel this way. An all encompassing power of surrender.  A knowing. A feeling. Being.  A state of awareness, of falling like a bird knowing the safety of freedom from the wings that will save me. 

Trusting self. Knowing self.  One with consciousness. No more asking questions of  “who am I?” but only “I am”.  Basking in a green vibrant meadow filled with an ocean of flowers. A kiss from passing wind. Sitting. One with my energy. Flowing. Existing. Awakening. Comfort and confidence in self. Moments gratitude. 

Witnessing one of nature’s wonders.  A waterfall of crystal clear bliss. A mountain of stern certainty. Mimicking the wonders of the moon and sun.  Peace.  Surrendering to right now.  Present.  Just as it suggest, a gift of divine intervention.

A greeting. A congradulations. A integration of self.  Unconditional love of self.  Integrating trauma, self-awareness and transformation. Alchemy. An equal give and take.  Balance.  Understanding pain.

The student. The teacher. Connection. Compassion. Love.  Oneness with love.  Love of self is love of others. Freedom and liberation. Silence of the mind.  Being the crafter. Being the creator.  Stroking the pen as I see fit to write my story. 

Peace.  It’s me. I am peace. Peace is inside of me.  

-SparklyWarTanks   

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Self-Care, The Pencil Case on The Mighty

#CheckInWithMe and Take What You Need

Activity

What do you need right now?

1. Energy with affirmation: I allow myself to rest and take breaks as I need.
2. Reassurance with affirmation: I did my best and my best is enough.
3. Support with affirmation: It’s okay for me to ask for help and support. There is an abundance of support for me.
4. Positivity with affirmations: I am enough. I am kind. I am growing. I am powerful.

My Reflection

I will take energy with affirmation: I allow myself to rest and take breaks as I need.


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Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Self-Care, Self-Talk, The Mighty, The Pencil Case on The Mighty

Pencil Case Prompts: Moments of Empowerment

Activity

Share a moment where you felt empowered.


Reflection

A moment, I remember, where I felt empowered was when I decided to ask for help with my mental health instead of isolating myself and struggling on my own. At that moment I knew I was capable and willing to receive help without feeling shame or embarrassment.

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Posted in Defying Shadows Articles, Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Self-Care, Self-Talk

Defying Shadows Article: Perfectionism, PTSD, and How I’m Learning to Overcome the Hustle Mentality

The hustle mentality for me is driven by a desire for financial freedom and emotional wellness. The flaws in my hustle mentality, however, are rooted in “destination addiction” constantly feeling as though satisfaction is achieved in something I don’t have yet. Because I’m always working for something greater and better than my last accomplishment, I also find myself lost in perfectionism.

Article Link: Perfectionism, PTSD, and How I’m Learning to Overcome the Hustle Mentality

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Quotes, Self-Care, Self-Talk

Dear Perfectionist Quote Series

Reflection

As a recovering perfectionist, I’m learning to overcome four obstacles: the importance of breaks and self-care, my worth and productivity, asking for help, and trying new things. As I move toward establishing a healthy version of myself, I’m slowly becoming aware of my needs and better ways to incorporate those needs when I take on projects or goals.

Affirmation: I don’t have to do things perfectly. My best is good enough.

Activity

Can you relate to being a perfectionist? How do you feel about being a perfectionist?

What affirmations can you practice to help when you find yourself wanting to achieve perfection?

What are some habits you can change or shift if you believe yourself to have unhelpful perfectionist tendencies?

Posted in Confessions, Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Reflection, Self-Care, Self-Talk, The Mighty, The Pencil Case on The Mighty

#CheckInWithMe If You’re Chasing Perfection

Mighty Newsletter Reflection

“Ever since I can remember, I’ve struggled with perfectionism and negative self-talk. From the daily “I have to finish everything on my to-do list or else I’m unsuccessful today” to the weekly feeling of fear that I’m not putting in enough effort toward my goals — this constant spiral of always having to do more is exhausting. And because perfectionism has me constantly in a “doing trance,” I haven’t felt accomplished or proud of any of my wonderful achievements in a long time.

However, in my efforts to get rid of the dictator that is perfectionism, I recently crafted some stars to put on the walls of my bedroom. These stars mean more to me than just colorful construction paper in the shape of an astronomical object.

Every day when I look at my stars, I am reminded that I’m successful and have achieved so much to get to this very moment. My success is not measured by how much I’ve done but simply by who I am and the strength I give each day. Simply waking up is enough reason to look up at my stars stamping that day as an achievement.

Here are 3 possible ways you could celebrate your own accomplishments:

– Share your achievements with a family member or friend and do a fun activity with them
– Write a list of the wins that make you proud, put it on your refrigerator and pass it often
– Take a mental health day where you reward yourself with all of your favorites, like a TV show or movie, a great read or a meal comprised of your fave snacks.

Takeaway: Your worth is so much more than what you do each day it’s naturally ingrained in who you are. It can never be taken away.

Note: You can find the stickers on my stars here in my Etsy shop!

Pencil Case Prompt Activity

What’s one way you can celebrate yourself?

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