In times of distress or overwhelm, one natural sensation we can count on is breathing. The breath we inhale as important as the breath we exhale, we make every breath count. As we use this as a gesture of self-help we value the life that flows through our lungs and the control we begin to gain. We allow self-compassion to re-enter our minds and calm the chaos with its peaceful voice of reason, logic, love, and hope. Just breathe.
What did I learn after I neglected my mental health? What does neglecting my mental health look like? Why is prioritizing your mental health important? How can you improve your mental health?
In my Defying Shadows article, I navigate and discuss my difficult moments with my mental health, how I learned about what mental health is, and why it’s so important.
When something or someone is causing you pain ask yourself, is this pain teaching me anything or opening up my perspective to ensure and guarantee my growth? In times where toxicity is present but not always apparent, you must determine whether that pain is necessary or toxic.
In terms of building relationships whether romantic, familial, or platonic, the occurrence of issues or disagreement is inevitable. When disagreements turn into manipulation, unnecessary pain, purposeful lack of communication, immaturity, lack of accountability, or one posing as “the parent” if not one is where a line must be drawn.
Remaining in toxic relationships or spaces do not determine your worthiness as a person. Your worth is not manifested by how much pain you can endure as you remain in toxic situations. Loyalty should not be painful. There is no need to wait around and stunt your growth for someone/something else. While pain is a teacher and in specific situations teaches you to become better, in others will cause trauma.
Always put your well being first before anything. If you find you are not benefiting from a relationship, space, or situation, relieve yourself of that pain
Making decisions with anxiety and depression can leave you in a weak and vulnerable state. Not being able to take every opportunity or apply for every job can be stressful as you may find yourself frustrated and less-than because of it.
I was faced with declining a job because I prioritized my mental health and here is what I have to say about it:
Often times we keep memories to ourselves. We reminisce and find that we are still hurting from past disappointments, rejections, and pains. As we hold on to these grudges daily, we notice how they affect how we treat every situation we encounter. We get stuck because we constantly live our pains over and over again.
It’s time that we let go of those pains. It’s time we put ourselves and our peace first. It’s time we forgive whatever is that is holding us hostage because we’re at the point that it’s changing our behavior. We must learn, make better decisions, and become better.
It’s time that we put one foot in front of the other and progress. We deserve to feel peace for once. Let yourself rest
Don’t wait around for someone to save you. You can save yourself because you have all the power and ability to. Once you bandage up your wombs and you’re well again, keep moving. You got this. You’re strong enough, good enough, and able to get through your hardest obstacles.
Even in those moments when I feel broken, I will not speak the words that will end my motivation to keep moving forward. Even in my low moments, I will not shut down and give up. Joy, peace, and self-love is the goal. No matter how much I want to give it all up, I won’t.
Being supportive and positive to yourself will go along way in your road to healing and recovering. There are moments whether mentally, physically, or emotionally ill where you just need kind words that will help you through the moment.
A troubled mind or moment won’t last forever and until you can tell that to yourself, struggling will feel like an eternity. Be good to yourself. Think and be encouraging. Speak recovery into the moment of the struggle and the struggle will pass you.
Be brave. That single moment of brave positivity will build your stamina and will catalyst healing.