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Defying Shadows Article: Facing Recovery After Hitting a Low Point

Growth and healing are a continuous process. While we may want our recovery journey to look linear, always progressing and improving, that is not what reality teaches us. Recovery, even when we see ourselves in great shape for long periods of time, sometimes come with low moments.
Learning how to accept sudden stumbling blocks can be discouraging, but those moments are what builds and crafts what recovery really looks like.

Link: Facing Recovery After Hitting a Low Point

Posted in Defying Shadows Articles, Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Self-Care

Defying Shadows Article: How to Stop an Emotional and Overthinking “Spiral” In It’s Tracks

Have you ever felt yourself beginning to “spiral?” What is “spiraling?” How can you regain control and focus when you find yourself overthinking into an emotional and uncomfortable place mentally?

Find out in my Defying Shadows article!

Article Link: How to Stop an Emotional and Overthinking “Spiral” In Its Tracks

Posted in Challenges, Confessions, Creations, Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Love, Potential and Worth, Power, Reflection, Self-Care, Self-Talk

I Am More Than

Pushing to a workable perspective means knowing who we are apart from the struggles we face; knowing we are much more than the hardship we experience.

As we progress, we must first declare what we are more than. Whether it’s that one negative thought, that mental health condition, the low self-esteem, or the chronic pain, WE ARE MORE.

We are multifaceted, talented, spectacular warriors that regardless of what we experience, we are still more than and we keep going.


This is what I am more than:

  • I am more than those negative thoughts.
  • I am more than depression.
  • I am more than anxiety.
  • I am more than low self-esteem.
  • I am more than self-doubt.
  • I am more than worrying.
  • I am more than isolation.

Tell me what you are more than.

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Self-Care, The Mighty

A Message of Strength

Stop focusing on those parts of your body that you hate.

That flaw you keep bringing up.

The stutter.

Your weight.

Being different. Having different abilities.

Your sensitivities.

Not getting certain types of attention.

Being single.

Feeling invisible.

Not feeling worthy or capable of what you want to become.


You are beautiful in everything you are. How your body moves, your intelligence, drive, ambitions, and strength. The way you love, your healing journey, and your talents.

You are a whole being on your own without the presence of someone else. You are seen and heard.

You are valuable and worthy of self-love. No one can give you the love you give yourself.

Enjoy your own company and bask in the splendor of how amazing you are. There is only one of you and no one else can be who you are.

Some days may be difficult, but that’s okay. Just always remember that your purpose is so essential it can’t be expressed in words.


Keep going. We need you here. We need you to exist.

Posted in Bulletins, Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Self-Care

Bulletin: It’s Okay to Ask For Help

There is no shame in asking for help when needed.

While we often believe we can accomplish everything on our own, help is often necessary to get where we want to go. Whether we get help for personal or professional reasons, the help will allow us the resources and knowledge to push past our obstacles!

Asking for help is one of the most fundamental ways to get ahead, but due to the type of help sometimes it’s difficult to reach out and get the assistance we need.

Here are some helpful tips to consider when asking for help:

  • Research the help you need based on what you think is best for you.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions!
  • Receiving the right help for you can take multiple attempts.
  • Keep trying even if you don’t get the help you need at first.
  • Not everyone you ask for help will help you. Do not get discouraged.
  • Help can be given in different ways. Be open-minded.
  • Just because someone can’t help you doesn’t mean they can’t be a resource, ask if they know anyone who can.
  • Extract information from all avenues of support.
  • Remember that you are brave for asking for help.
  • Know your worth!
Posted in Events, Mental Health

The Mighty and SparklyWarTanks Presents “Family Day!” (UPDATED)

Event four is coming next month and I’m super excited!

Attention: This is an outdoor event!


Description

We all need time to relax and enjoy ourselves. With all that’s happening around us, sometimes it’s difficult to sit back and have fun! Family Day is a community building event where we will play games and get to know one another. Please feel free to bring a blanket, sheet, or chair and anything else that will help you to feel comfortable. Snacks will be available!


Date: August 17th, 2019 (updated)

Time: 1 pm – 5 pm

Meeting Place: Grand Army Plaza, Flatbush Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11238

If you would like to come you can send me a message, rsvp through The Mighty and let me know by clicking “going” on the Facebook page.

Hope to see you there!

Posted in Defying Shadows Articles, Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Other Publications, Potential and Worth, Self-Care

Defying Shadows Article: When to Take A Mental Health Day

“A mental health day is a personal day set aside to prioritize mental, emotional, and physical wellness. Whether that day is on a weekend or setting aside time during the week, a mental health day allows you to take a break from the strains of your daily responsibilities and work…”

Do you need a mental health day?

Check out the link below to see when a good time to take one.

Link: When to Take a Mental Health Day

Posted in Confessions, Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Quotes, Self-Care, Self-Talk, The Mighty

#MightyThoughts: I See Myself In You

It’s 3:53 in the morning and I can’t help but realize that I see myself in you.
We may see something inadequate, or something broken. We notice all that is wrong yet have no idea how to feel like we’re worth something spectacular.
That’s the thing, we can’t see how worthy we are of life sometimes. We define who we are by what we’ve done or how bad we’ve screwed up something. Over and over we may come to a place where we can’t see the value we possess.

Here is a message I tell myself daily and would like you to know too: You are of value no matter what you are doing or what you’ve done. You wake up with purpose and will always have purpose. Adequacy, worth, value, peace, joy, calmness, balance, and wholeness is all that is you already. You just have to believe it to be true. Believe in your healing. Believe in your recovery. I love you guys.


Find it on The Mighty here

Posted in Confessions, Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Notes, Potential and Worth, Power, Self-Care, Self-Talk, The Mighty

#CheckInWithMe Mighty Thought Note 35: Learning to Sooth My Inner Child as Someone With Depression

My Inner Child and Perfectionism
Growing up I was a perfectionist. And while I’m now able to regulate my impulses to go well past my emotional and mental limits, as a child my self-worth depended on overachieving to feel seen and heard. Whether it was a school assignment, cleaning my room, or comparing myself to everyone else, I found that my high expectations built an inner bully that still rests in the inner child inside me.

When situations happen or certain phrases are spoken to me that affect my inner child, a wave or impulse of pain passes through my chest and my heart drops to my feet. I could instantly remember a similar situation or feeling from one in my past. Examples of these are being ignored, feeling as though my voice isn’t being heard, being pushed to the side, feeling alone, not knowing who to talk to, or feeling less-than and not good enough.
Depression, Connection, and Growing in Self-Awareness
The more I grow in self-awareness, the more I’m able to connect and identify the situations, experiences, self-talk, and thoughts that hurt my inner child. Much of my depression, I now realize, rest on the pain and experiences of that hurt little girl. I’ve learned that the more in-tune I am with soothing my inner child, the closer I get to understand the best ways to take care of myself through depressive episodes.

Connecting with my inner child is a bit painful, but it allows me to begin to let go and progress to a more workable and healthy relationship with myself. I want to love myself more in my recovery with depression. As I feel the pain resurface, I’m learning to let it go. I imagine speaking with my inner child while building trust and honesty with myself.

Soothing as a Process of Moving Forward
Workable self-talk and writing are two soothing tools I use when experiencing mental turmoil. Detaching my thoughts from my mind onto my phone or paper helps me to see what I’m going through using words. I’m able to soothe myself and create something positive as I switch negative thoughts into more positive ones.

The more I write, the more I can show my inner child that it’s okay to feel hurt. My worth is no longer connected to what I do but to who I am. In my journey of healing and recovery, I’m accepting all parts of myself without judgment. An increase in self-awareness is also an increase in self-love. Self-love means I will do what I can to be better and feel better.


Find it on The Mighty here

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Potential and Worth, Power, Self-Care, Self-Talk

What are You Doing About it?: Approaching Limiting Beliefs and Moving Ahead

Often times we find ourselves stuck and unable to move forward. Whether it’s a split second of confusion or longer amount of time, we grapple with obstacles both conscious and unconscious that are prohibiting us from achieving what we want.

How we approach those obstacles, however, will guide our next steps and will help us to be more proactive in who we want to become. Asking insightful questions and motivating ourselves to do better can help to push the change we want to see.

Self-doubt and Limiting Beliefs

When feeling unable or unfit to achieve a goal, we may already be telling ourselves we can’t achieve what we want. This may be in the form of procrastination, lack of motivation, negative self-talk, avoiding responsibilities and tasks, or constantly feeling discouraged/depressed when it comes to picking up new opportunities.

Because limiting beliefs are ingrained in how we think, its often difficult to identify them. To combat this issue in identifying how we are holding ourselves back, we must practice self-awareness and critical thinking. How are you really feeling? Who do you want to be?

Questions to Help Identify Limiting Beliefs/Fears

Here are 8 questions you can ask yourself if you feel stuck due to limiting beliefs or self-doubt and want to move forward:

  1. What do you want to achieve?
  2. How important is that goal to you?
  3. Do you have fears that might be stopping you from reaching your goal?
  4. How do the fears make you feel?
  5. Do you feel that the belief/fear is protecting you from pain?
  6. Are those beliefs and fears serving a purpose? Can you move on from them?
  7. How can you overcome those limiting beliefs and fears?
  8. What are new ways to think about your fears/limiting beliefs in order to progress?

Moving Forward with Affirmations and New Creations

Now that we are thinking about our limiting beliefs and goals we want to achieve, how do we change our mindset to wanting and striving to be more of who we want to be? Affirmations and new ideas are some ways we can get ourselves in a more workable mindset.

Here are some affirmations you can practice to get started:

  • I am good enough.
  • I am capable of achieving my goals.
  • I learn and grow from every opportunity.
  • Challenges I am faced with are great learning experiences.
  • I am worthy of new opportunities and I am where I need to be.

Changing how you see yourself in your current situation will help you to move ahead despite challenges and obstacles.

You can also build on those affirmations by creating something new. Writing a poem or article, drawing, creating your own blog, practicing arts and crafts, cooking can aid in feelings of accomplishment boosting your sense of self-worth.

The more confidence you build, the more active you will become in believing you can achieve what you want. Move and become active in your progress. Belief in yourself is the first step in achieving goals.

Become who you want to become. You are your biggest critic but can also be your biggest fan. Prove to yourself that you can.