Take a moment to breathe with me.
Inhale for the count of three through your nose, and exhale for another count of three through your mouth.
Release the stress in your body and relax your muscles.
Check-in with yourself today, okay? You deserve peace and good things too.
Sending love and positive energy your way.
Even during the ebbs and flows of life, the painful moments, the lessons, the bad decisions, the storms, its okay to love yourself. Show yourself some compassion and grace today.
Practice this mantra with me:
I honor my body by taking breaks and prioritizing self care. I am gentle with myself and allow myself to feel and process what is happening around me. My needs are valid and I reflect on each moment as I see fit. I am beautiful and I accept every part of myself. I understand that I can’t control all that happens around me, but I can control my approach. I am the crafter and the creator. I love my body and I choose to put myself first.
Sometimes it feels like we’re always waiting; waiting for a new healthy love, a better job, a fresh start. We might become restless, losing hope in continuously wanting something we don’t have yet. We become engulfed in the what ifs of an ever-changing future.
But what if we’re not supposed to be waiting or anticipating? What if instead, we just live right now? What if we decide and declare what it is we deserve, hold that close, and focus our energy on being present today? What is for us, what we are working for, what we put our efforts into, will happen in alignment with the decisions we make in the present. What we are doing now shapes the moments that follow.
Create and craft each moment to reflect what you want. Create the person you want to be in every moment.
The future is a collection of already made decisions. Once we reach “the future” it will just be the present in that shifted moment. All that matters is right now.
What are you going to do right now?
Celebrate yourself.
I love you.
Healing Letters of Reflection:
[Topics- Codependency and Anxious Attachment]
I understand now. I understand what I was meant to learn. How I was in pain too. But, I was trying to make you love me, even though you didn’t want to. I’m sorry. You were in pain like me. The cycles of run and chase. I saw something I knew I could love, so I latched onto that feeling. I was wrong though. Because, I was in pain and needed to manage and take care of my heart first. I needed to love myself more and I didn’t. I wanted to love you because I saw myself in you. Maybe loving you would help me love myself? No. That’s not how that works. Being alone was scary. It was a step into an oblivion of nothingness. What am I to do with all this pain I feel into an unknown future? Can I do it? Wow, do I even believe in myself? Who am I? What do I even want? It’s the ideas, the potential, the feeling. It’s the fear of changing into a person I don’t know.
…Well I’m that person now. The person I was scared to become because, who is she? She can see. She gets it. She understands.
I understand now. That I was in pain. I was panicking. Trauma responses left and right. Trying to fix. Fixate. Control. Overexplain. Change someone else. I was the one who needed changing. But, that’s okay…because I understand now. So, thank you. You helped me to see, because everything was foggy back then. I hope everything is good with you. I hope you can understand, too.
Activity
Write a letter to someone who helped you to grow.
Healing is not a destination or fixed goal to achieve. This does not mean continuing to struggle, however. Instead, healing is the adaptation to the evolutionary process of self-awareness and self-acceptance. Healing is the constant effort, practice, and process of integration, balance, and shifting of consciousness to self, influencing the elevation of knowing and being.
To heal means getting to know yourself, understanding the depths and necessity of care and love for yourself despite the challenges that may arise. Of course “bad” days will come, but this does not regress the healing process. Healing equips you with tools and resources to have readily available when needed.
Examples of methods, resources, tools, and steps of continuous healing include:
Healing is about the journey. Once embarking on that journey you realize it is not linear and often changes based on what you learn on the way. Focusing on the journey allows for a profound understanding of self as the sole purpose in existence. You yourself are your own purpose. You are important and nothing can change that fact. Healing is the constant conscious effort of actualizing yourself in not only what you do, but also who you are. You are divine energy living a human experience. Prioritize healing. Learn the lessons that need to be learned, connect to yourself, love yourself and everything about you. What are the best ways to take care of yourself? What do you want to improve? What are your shadow traits? What are experience do you need to process? Are you feeling your feelings? Are you expressing yourself? All that makes you who you are is important in this journey of conscious and continous healing.
Healing yourself also heals the world.
What does healing mean to you?
Have the conversations that need to be had with the people you love. Create solid and supportive relationships with the people you care most about. It’s time to speak up. Needs don’t make you needy. Triggers don’t make you weak. Vulnerability doesn’t make you any less of a person. Build the healthy bonds you deserve.
Activity
What is a fun fact or important detail about you?
My Reflection
A fun fact about me is I LOVE comfort items like pillows, soft blankets, and stuffed animals.
One important detail about me is that resting is really essential for my mental and physical health. Being highly sensitive, I burn out quicker then others.
Join the conversation here in The Pencil Case on The Mighty!
So very excited to announce the NAMI-NYC Expressive Arts workshop event I will be hosting at the end of the month! This event will be via Zoom and on the NAMI-NYC website. You can find the link here and clicking the Expressive Arts Zoom link for July 31st, 2021.
If you have any questions or concerns feel free to send me an email. The time of the event is in Eastern Standard Time.
**I will share any updates or changes and keep everyone posted.
Here are some details for the event:
Title
Beauty and Horizons
Description
“Beauty and Horizons” is a creative and fun event focused on reflecting on ourselves, our beauty and who we see ourselves to be. Starting with an ice breaker, we will sketch an image and write about one accomplishment that we are most proud of. The main activity will then be to imagine and draw a sunset on the beach. Around the sunset we will list 10 reasons why we are beautiful. Lastly, we will close by sharing our works of art.
Materials
Paper, writing utensils (pen, pencil, markers, or crayons).
Hope to see you there!
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