Have the conversations that need to be had with the people you love. Create solid and supportive relationships with the people you care most about. It’s time to speak up. Needs don’t make you needy. Triggers don’t make you weak. Vulnerability doesn’t make you any less of a person. Build the healthy bonds you deserve.
Consistency is the agreement you make with what’s important to you. While consistency takes work, it also takes patience, persistence, and mindfulness. Without consistency, there is an imbalance of priorities and effort in what you invest your time doing. What are you consistent with? What are you not consistent with? What does your consistency tell you about your priorities?
Here are some questions to consider when you evaluate the relationship you have with consistency:
1. Are you putting effort, time, patience, and work into what’s important to you?
2. Are you keeping your word?
Without the hustle and bustle of an everyday routine of “work, ” it can become draining and confusing to figure out what purpose means. Because we’re used to linking who we are to what we “do” we often forget that we aren’t what we do, we simply…are. We exist and that, in itself, is purpose.
Awareness of the present “self” is appreciating all that “we are” in the absence of work. Who are we when we are not working or performing tasks? How can we bask in the simplicity of being?
Note: Focusing our attention on “doing” dictates our actions and goals to define success as accomplishments achieved only by something we can perform through our behaviors and actions. Therefore, when we are not actively “doing” much of anything we lose our sense of self and purpose. Shifting our focus to “being” allows us to appreciate existing when we are not/cannot “do” anything.
Acknowledging that we have worth and value, not because of “what” we do but because of “who” we are (already) helps us to understand our fundamental “being.”
Affirmation Challenge: When waking up every morning, begin by affirming and manifesting the words, “I am.” By understanding that “doing” doesn’t define purpose, we can view our expectations of ourselves with gentleness, approaching each day with gratitude and grace. Existing and living how best we can outweigh the constant assumption of having to do more to fill our sense of self.
Reminder: It’s okay if some days are difficult to even get out of bed. Those days are our “being” days. It’s okay to focus on being.
“Experiencing a panic attack is exhausting, draining and can take days to recover from. While we sometimes do our best to prevent an escalation into a panic attack, they still can happen. How do we feel like ourselves again following a panic attack? What are some positive coping techniques we can use to improve our self-care?”
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I woke up pretty sad today. My thoughts are filled with doubts, fears, and hopelessness. What I am going to do this year, however, is allow myself to feel the tough stuff and process my emotions 💡.
My new year’s new habit will be to journal every day and help myself to heal and feel. No matter how low I get, I will allow myself time to get through the hard stuff without pushing it away.
Goal: Love me enough to find productive ways to process my thoughts and feelings.
What are some habits you’ll like to start in 2020?.
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Anyone else have issues with falling asleep? Here are some tips and tricks I learned in my Defying Shadows Article!
What are some helpful techniques you use to fall asleep?
“Growth and healing are a continuous process. While we may want our recovery journey to look linear, always progressing and improving, that is not what reality teaches us. Recovery, even when we see ourselves in great shape for long periods of time, sometimes come with low moments.
Learning how to accept sudden stumbling blocks can be discouraging, but those moments are what builds and crafts what recovery really looks like.”
In this context of healing, you are progressing, letting go, moving on, and allowing yourself rest from constant mental turmoil. What does that look like for you? What do you need to come to terms with to allow the healing process to surface and take its course?
Say whatever is bothering your peace of mind out loud. Speak in order to establish the pain. Do not remain in denial or give excuses. What is it that bothers you the most?
When you put together the pain you feel into words affirm and declare something different. Speak in terms of what, why, and how in order to establish contact with the pain and negative thoughts.
What now? What do you need in order to let go? How will you take a step forward from that point of pain?
Start with yourself. Turn pain into peace. Establish peace in pain.
For some, the holiday season is especially difficult to deal with. So, what does it mean to prioritize your mental health during this time of year?
Check out my Defying Shadows article where I explain and express some helpful tips for dealing with the holidays like asking yourself important questions, navigating the best tactics to stay mentally stable, and embracing boundaries!
There is always a time when you will find that you have outgrown a space, when you aren’t growing anymore because you’ve learned enough and your perspective has changed from those around you.
You are needed some place else. People need what you can offer, but you can’t help unless you know when to move on from the places you are now. You are meant to move and reach others in different spaces allowing you to grow as well as those you come in contact with.
Keep moving in your journey. Don’t trap yourself.