As a recovering perfectionist, I’m learning to overcome four obstacles: the importance of breaks and self-care, my worth and productivity, asking for help, and trying new things. As I move toward establishing a healthy version of myself, I’m slowly becoming aware of my needs and better ways to incorporate those needs when I take on projects or goals.
Affirmation: I don’t have to do things perfectly. My best is good enough.
Can you relate to being a perfectionist? How do you feel about being a perfectionist?
What affirmations can you practice to help when you find yourself wanting to achieve perfection?
What are some habits you can change or shift if you believe yourself to have unhelpful perfectionist tendencies?
Mighty Newsletter Reflection
“Ever since I can remember, I’ve struggled with perfectionism and negative self-talk. From the daily “I have to finish everything on my to-do list or else I’m unsuccessful today” to the weekly feeling of fear that I’m not putting in enough effort toward my goals — this constant spiral of always having to do more is exhausting. And because perfectionism has me constantly in a “doing trance,” I haven’t felt accomplished or proud of any of my wonderful achievements in a long time.
However, in my efforts to get rid of the dictator that is perfectionism, I recently crafted some stars to put on the walls of my bedroom. These stars mean more to me than just colorful construction paper in the shape of an astronomical object.
Every day when I look at my stars, I am reminded that I’m successful and have achieved so much to get to this very moment. My success is not measured by how much I’ve done but simply by who I am and the strength I give each day. Simply waking up is enough reason to look up at my stars stamping that day as an achievement.
Here are 3 possible ways you could celebrate your own accomplishments:
– Share your achievements with a family member or friend and do a fun activity with them
– Write a list of the wins that make you proud, put it on your refrigerator and pass it often
– Take a mental health day where you reward yourself with all of your favorites, like a TV show or movie, a great read or a meal comprised of your fave snacks.
Takeaway: Your worth is so much more than what you do each day – it’s naturally ingrained in who you are. It can never be taken away.
Note: You can find the stickers on my stars here in my Etsy shop!
Pencil Case Prompt Activity
What’s one way you can celebrate yourself?
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Consistency is the agreement you make with what’s important to you. While consistency takes work, it also takes patience, persistence, and mindfulness. Without consistency, there is an imbalance of priorities and effort in what you invest your time doing. What are you consistent with? What are you not consistent with? What does your consistency tell you about your priorities?
Here are some questions to consider when you evaluate the relationship you have with consistency:
1. Are you putting effort, time, patience, and work into what’s important to you?
2. Are you keeping your word?
3. Are you making excuses?
4. Are you considering other people’s needs besides your own?
5. Is there mutuality and balance in your relationships?
6. Are you avoiding or distracting yourself from the things that hurt you?
7. Are those distractions hurting or helping your priorities?
8. Are you keeping up with your distractions or your healing?
9. What can you improve in your relationships, goals, and priorities moving forward?
If you ever wrote a book what would that book be about? (If you already wrote a book, do you want to write another one?)
-What genre would the book be in?
– Are there characters in your book? Who would the main character be?
-Would your book have a lesson?
Let me know in the comments below or feel free to journal about this prompt!
If I ever wrote a book it would be nonfiction and a mixture of my creative and reflective writing.
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“Although my fear of the unknown masked as “what if” questions continue to greet me early in the morning, I can find refuge in knowing I can go to my self-care tools to fight back and be more mindful about the thoughts I encourage.”
Article Link: How I’m Overcoming the Fear of “What Ifs” as Someone With Depression, Anxiety, and PTSD
Sometimes prioritizing self-care means not engaging, participating, encouraging, or taking part in something. What will you not be doing this week?
Let me know in the comments below!
For me, I will not:
1. Encourage negative thoughts.
2. Procrastinate in finishing my certification.
3. Continue to speak down on myself.
4. Push myself when I feel exhausted and need a break.
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I remember planting this seed and thinking it would never grow. Pressured by the expectation that I’m doing something wrong, I was plagued with thoughts that if it didn’t show it’s growth it would be my fault.
But, although my expectations were low, it grew anyway and the tears I shed when it showed its little leaves made me realize I’m okay.
I’m okay because the seed is planted and as long as I have even the slightest hope that it would grow, it just might grow.
I just might grow, too.
It’s difficult to face yourself, every part of yourself. To sit, feel your pain, and acknowledge when you need help is nothing short of a heroic act.
Advocate for yourself when no one else is advocating for you. Call yourself out when you know you need to do better. Move and do what’s best for you. Trust in yourself. Gain knowledge. Grow in empathy.
Realize that you don’t need to carry those burdens everywhere you go. Relieve yourself of the expectations that cause you pain and fuel habits of self-sabotage. Create reasonable expectations instead. Know yourself. Say no. Be gentle with your self-talk.
Speak the words “I can” and walk in your affirmations and manifestations. Follow through with what you say you will.
Be intentional with self-love and take care of yourself.
Realize how important you are and take action. Move in grace and gentleness with every step.
The more you accept yourself in your intrinsic beauty and worth, the closer you are to purpose and change.
First believe, each step will then be accompanied with power.
Hi my name is Nina and I’m highly sensitive. Yes, I’ve said this before and yes, it’s something I’m learning to love about myself. Plagued with hearing the phrases like I’m “too sensitive” or “too deep” penetrates my psyche leaving me feeling invalidated and strange.
Yes, I notice things, very subtle things. I notice patterns and changes; I notice character traits and inconsistencies; I notice my feelings from an overwhelming amount of notices. In an attempt to create stricter boundaries for myself honoring my needs and concerns, I express thoughts on these notices. It’s been a tough road as I’ve grown frustrated with how much I feel and all that I notice.
Ultimately, I simply want to be able to express myself without being “too much.” I’m not too much. This is me in my high sensitivity.
“Overthinking does not have to prohibit you from achieving your goals or taking care of your responsibilities. It’s okay to have concerns and want to think thoroughly through everyday challenges, but instead of overthinking take action while also prioritizing your mental health.”