Tag: Self-Talk

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A Message to My Inner Teen

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Write a message to your teenage self about a lesson or truth you’ve learned that you didn’t know back then.

Something I find helpful for understanding the shame and grief I carry is writing messages, notes, and letters to my younger self — whether that’s my inner child or my inner teen. These are parts of me that endured so much and didn’t know how to cope with those intense experiences at the time.

Lately, I’ve been connecting with my inner teenager and allowing her to finally feel everything she wasn’t allowed to back then. I’ve noticed how angry, crushed, and betrayed she still feels from all the things she wished she could experience but couldn’t, and how much she wasn’t able to process or release because she didn’t understand what was happening.

Here is my message to her today:

Dear teen Nina,

It’s OK to feel every emotion coming up right now — anger, resentment, shame, frustration, betrayal. I know those feelings are scary for you. You don’t have to perform anymore or try to be perfect for everyone around you. It’s OK to make mistakes; that doesn’t make you a bad person. You deserve to be loved and accepted every day without having to do anything to earn it. You can move slowly and take your time — no one is pressuring you anymore. You are free to be your wonderful and beautiful self.

Oh, and one more thing: other people’s suffering or struggles are not your fault. You are not responsible for their emotions or reactions.

I love you, and I’m here whenever you need me.

— Adult Nina (sparklywartanks)

Also find this prompt in the No Shame group on The Mighty here.

Posted in Mental Health, Self-Talk, The Mighty

Need a Mighty pep talk this week? Me, too.

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Write yourself an uplifting Mighty pep talk for the week ahead.

It’s one of those Mondays. I’m feeling super tired, and the week’s just begun—I could really use a motivational boost. Anyone else feel the same way? 😵‍💫

Here’s the pep talk I’m giving myself:

Take your time this week, Nina.
You’re allowed to say “no” and move at your own pace. I’m proud of you for showing up and shining like the superstar you are—but don’t forget that rest is important, too. Your worth isn’t defined by how much you do; you are wonderful simply because you exist. Be gentle with yourself today. I love you, always.

🫶 Gentle reminder:
If this exercise felt difficult, know that you are still worthy of love and kindness—even in the moments you don’t feel like it.

Also find this post in the Check In With Me group on The Mighty here.

Posted in Love, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Reflection, Self-Care

My Words of 2025: Love and Freedom

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It’s taken me some time to gather these thoughts, mostly because energy and motivation have been hard to come by these days. Sometimes, I wish there were an easier way to collect all the ingredients needed to create my best work. That, plus the procrastination and perfectionist blocks that make me feel like I have to know exactly what I’m going to write before I even start. And yet, here I am, still not 100% sure what I want to say.

2025 has already been overwhelming. The world is in pain, and there’s so much fear in our collective energy. As for me, I haven’t been feeling well. The problem solver in me wants to make everything better—for both myself and others—but I’ve been feeling lost and out of control.

A few weekends ago, I facilitated my first expressive arts workshop of 2025. One of the activities involved writing a series of personal notes reflecting on our values, what’s important to us, the habits that benefit us, and what we will let go of this year. In my notes, I wrote down my words and phrase for the year: my words being love and freedom, and my phrase being “I’m not doing that.”

This year, I want to take back my energy from the spirals of negativity I often find myself in and explore what it feels like to let go of the expectation of failure and missing out. I want to let love in—and even though I’m scared—be willing to work through the discomfort of change because I deserve to experience something different from what I’m used to. I want to feel free enough that making mistakes or feeling embarrassed doesn’t make me a bad person. I want to be able to make choices that are right for me and not feel guilty when I say no or set boundaries that keep me safe.

These are my intentions for the year. As I begin to feel better and safer expressing and receiving love while navigating freedom, I hope to find others who are doing the same for themselves.

Well that’s what I have for now. Thank you for reading. 💌

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Love, Mental Health, Self-Care, Self-Talk, Videos

I Shared My Pearls of Wisdom on Taboo Talk Podcast!

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I’m excited to share that my friend and fellow NAMI-NYC Ending the Silence and In Our Own Voice co-presenter, Lady Charmaine Day, asked me to be on her podcast, Taboo Talk! In this episode I share my 21 pearls of wisdom on how to live a good life as well as my journey living in recovery. Feel free to check it out here or in the video below!

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Love, Mental Health, Power, Self-Care, Self-Talk

7 Days of Affirmations: Day 6

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We’re at day 6! 🎉🪴

Today’s affirmations are as follows:

I am comfortable and confident in who I am. I radiate beauty and each day I choose myself, I become more powerful. I love and accept every part of me.

Reflection: Guess what, sparkly fam!? Someone approached me today and said I was extremely beautiful. That really made my day and inspired my affirmations for today 😁. I’ve made so much progress in loving myself more and now feel good when I receive a compliment from someone. I’m really proud of myself.

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Love, Mental Health, Self-Care, Self-Talk

7 Days of Affirmations: Day 5

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Day 5 is here! 🥰

The theme for today is self-care. My affirmations are:

I allow myself to rest and regain my energy. I know how to manage my time effectively. I prioritize self-care because it’s important to me and I deserve to feel good.

Reflection: How I think about self-care is evolving and changing every day. Self-care for me can include being kind to myself, doing something creative regularly, and setting daily personal goals. The more I get to know myself, the better my mind and body feel.

What does self-care look like for you?

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Power, Self-Care, Self-Talk

7 Days of Affirmations: Day 4

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It’s day 4 already! 🦋

Here are my affirmations:

I’m capable of achieving the goals I set for myself. My efforts help me to succeed. I embrace my power and believe in myself. I’m focused on what I know I can do.

Reflection: I remember the dreams I have every night. Some of those dreams don’t have much significance, while others I can tell are showing me something important.

A few days ago I had a dream of a silkworm (a first for me despite often having animal symbols in my dreams). The silkworm was following me not too far away. Although I was confused and a bit scared of it, it continued to linger going from its larvae state to flying toward me as a mature moth. Similar to a butterfly, a moth too represents the ongoing cycles of transformation and rebirth.

I’ve been on an ongoing wave of transitions for the past year and it’s taken a lot out of me. The stress and the uncertainty alone has caused my confidence to plummet. I choose right now though, to push forward and use the silkworm from my dream as a guide to not give up on myself or my goals. I may continue to be challenged, but I know my efforts will pay off.

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Love, Mental Health, Self-Care, Self-Talk

7 Days of Affirmations: Day 3

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Day 3️⃣ and counting!

Today’s affirmations are about me, money, and wealth. They are:

I am financially wealthy. Money flows to me effortlessly both in expected and unexpected ways. My prosperity is limitless. I am open to receiving all wealth life brings to me.

Reflection: *Takes deep breath*. Unfortunately, I experienced a panic episode today. It’s been a long time since I’ve felt this amount of overwhelm, but I’ll be kind to myself as I gain my energy back. I was sitting in a meeting and remember getting a flood of negative thoughts, especially about money and security. The fear associated with wealth can stop me in my tracks and be challenging to gain confidence around. I want to get a better grasp at manifesting financial and other types of wealth and feel good about my skills, talents, and abilities. I know things will get better for me, I just have to be patient with myself. I’m ready to continue to move forward.

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Love, Mental Health, Self-Care, Self-Talk

7 Days of Affirmations: Day 2

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It’s day 2 of affirmations!

After a long day of work, here are the words I want to practice:

I live in a constant state of abundance and love. I know who I am and what I deserve. I set boundaries that reflect my needs and advocate for myself when necessary. What is meant for me will always find me.

Reflection: I’ve been on a journey of recovery, both for my mental health and the symptoms I manage daily, and from years of perfectionism/people pleasing due to feeling undeserving of love and companionship from others. I’m learning that there’s nothing I have to do to be worthy of love. I’m allowed to take care of myself, speak up, and put my needs first without being afraid of losing out on opportunities of connection. Although this is a lifelong practice for me, I will consistently remind myself that what’s meant for me will ALWAYS find me.

Posted in Mental Health, Self-Care, Self-Talk

7 Days of Affirmations: Day 1

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I think it’s about time I’ve done another themed writing series! For this series I’ll be writing personal daily affirmations 🦋.

Today’s affirmations are:

I trust myself and the decisions I make. I’m allowed to make mistakes and learn new lessons every day. I take my time and do my best. Good things happen to me regularly.

Reflection: As I navigate new environments and meet new people, I’m learning to trust myself better and not be afraid to make mistakes. I affirm that my best can look different every day and I can do a good job every time. I don’t have to be perfect. I’m allowed to learn as I go and be kind to myself in the process.