A major lesson I’ve learned this year is that I have the capacity to unconditionally love; myself and others. The pain that comes with realizing that others don’t always feel the same love for me has been really painful yet transformative, however. I realized that everyone’s on a different journey and have different experiences that don’t always include me, but that’s OK, I still want to continue to practice unconditional love even if that’s from a distance. Everyone deserves to be loved and receive love in return despite that discrepancy.
Affirmation: I am love. No matter how others feel about me, it’s still OK for me to love myself and spread love to others.
For those celebrating a holiday today or going to celebrate a holiday soon, stay safe and enjoy 💝.
Everything good that you’ve experienced and will experience is coming your way simply because you deserve it. You deserve peace, success, celebration, abundance, wealth, support, and love. Nothing you do or don’t do will pave the way for something that is already yours. It’s yours because you exist. Keep on taking one step at a time and one breath at a time. Keep moving forward. Believe in goodness.
I remember when I was a teenager I struggled a lot with my self-esteem and self-worth. I later realized because of this my perception of love was impacted; I struggled so much especially with self-love. I remember always wanting to be in a relationship and being in the “fairy tale” type of love story. I thought that I would only be satisfied with the idea of love if I was in a romantic relationship with my “soulmate.” Valentines day hit me hard every year because, to me, it was a reminder of my failures in love.
It took me up until now, as an adult, to slowly learn to love myself fully and unconditionally. I would tell my teenage self that love is all around me — from how I speak to myself, to the ones I surround myself with; from my creativity to my advocacy work; from how I interact with others to being in nature and expressing gratitude for what I have. Love is everywhere, I just have to open myself up to feel it.
Warm and Friendly Reminder: Love is vast and can show up in many different ways including in friendships, family (biological or otherwise), romanic relationships, in work/hobbies, in nature, and in self-love. Love is never too far away.
Affirmations you can practice for self-love:
“I am worthy of acceptance and love.”
“I love myself.”
“Love is all around me.”
What about you? What would you tell your teenage self about love?
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The words that are themes for me this year, in 2022, are “intuition” and “boundaries.
As I actualize myself this year in confidence and freedom, I will listen and pay attention to my needs, wants, desires and intuition. I step forward with better understanding of my thoughts, behaviors, habits and growth. I continuously attract what is for my highest good and take opportunities that are best for me.
I am kind to myself as I navigate through tough emotions like frustration, shame, guilt and anger and I do so with grace and compassion for myself.
I grow in awareness of how to create safe and comfortable spaces for myself and do so regularly.
I am worthy of love and balance. I create the reality I deserve.
I welcome peace every morning. I am ready for each day.
Set a new year intention:
What word or words are your themes for 2022?
What affirmation, mantra, or agreement can you create and practice to help you to remember and stick to your intention?
You deserve the best love, support, relationships, friendships, and experiences. You deserve abundance, wealth, and opportunities. You deserve to treat yourself with kindness and love. You deserve growth. You deserve peace. You deserve to find communities that understand you. You deserve to be accepted. Your voice deserves to be heard.
Love does not only mend and improve the bonds we have with each other but also liberates the relationship we have with ourselves. Creating pathways and pockets of grace to face the challenges of our childhood trauma, survival habits, triggers, and attachment to expectations.
When we open the door to love ourselves unconditionally we create bridges to enter parts of ourselves we are used to hiding away. We welcome wholeness and alignment. We accept every part of who we are. Love becomes the language that guides our inner dialogue and helps us to understand our next steps.
As we love ourselves unconditionally and unapologetically, we can love others the same. We interact and speak with others just as we would ourselves. Let love in. Let love create the way.
Image quote above will be made into a sticker for my Etsy shop at the end of the month!
You are not too far from love, even if you feel alone and no one cares. You are not too far from community or support. It’s okay if you are struggling and need help sometimes. There is no shame in wanting to connect with others, to feel like you’re a part of something, or simply want to be around like-minded people. You are not too far off or far gone to access people that understand. The love you seek exist. You are never too far away.