ove yourself and everything about you. Fall in love with figuring out what you like and what makes you happy. Don’t allow people to bind you from loving who you are. Don’t hide your flaws or be embarrassed by mistakes you’ve made. Learn. Experience.
Look yourself in the face every morning and say today will be good.
You deserve love and there’s no better, more uplifting way to find love than to appreciate and value seeing yourself overcome and get past obstacles that has held you back for years.
Today will be different. You will take every moment and slow down. You will reflect and you will grow.
You don’t need validation or acceptance from anyone. You are more than enough so be comfortable with yourself.
You’re already doing great. Keep going. I believe in you.
Sometimes I wonder if something is wrong with me. How is it that I can love deeply like this? I think of the ways that can make someone else smile. I spend hours looking for something or thinking up ideas on ways I can express my love. Why? Is it that serious? But then I feel bad because sometimes I don’t get the magnitude of love back that I’m giving so I break down. I feel betrayed. Why do I love like this? Even when I can’t afford to love like I do, I’ll go broke drowning in my giving.
I wish I can give the world when I can’t. I’m working too hard to get the love I’m letting out. I don’t want to look crazy for being creative with my love so I feel like I’m retreating to a dark place in my self-esteem. I’m afraid of being hurt and embarrassed for doing too much.
I just want love too.
Love is complex and love is diverse. Love is individual and love is multifaceted. One must love oneself and love another. Love does not need reasons to exist. Love is accepting, it is patient, and it is unconditional.
Love is not like other emotions. Love is active. Love is a process and love progresses. Love takes time. Once love is reached, however, it must be maintained with sacrifices and compromises because, if you haven’t noticed, we are trying to love people of different lives, cultures, lifestyles, pet peeves, and experiences (when building relationships). We are trying to build love and acceptance. Love cannot just be left alone or forgotten. Once love is built than taking it down causes major psychological issues. Love goes all in. But love also gets tired. Love must be mutual.
Love for oneself is as important as loving someone else. You are the most important part of your life. Loving yourself is extremely essential to your growth, prosperity, and progress. Knowing that without you there is no life to live is what makes love so pivotal. Its not selfish to put your own well being first, its necessary.
Continue in love. Progress in love. Understand in love. Love is needed. Continue to love.
So I’m in the process of adding a new portion of SWT writing called “Blood Honesty.” This will be a collection of therapy writing, creative writing pieces and reflections that helps me recall memories that has come up over and over. I relate how these memories have boiled into hurt and how I operate with people. This writing will be in my next book project “Writing to Heal: Power of Written Word.”
This is an excerpt from a Blood Honesty post that I wrote on November 27th:
The concept of love is so underrated, mixed and confused with all emotions felt by people. But love, real love, unconditional love felt by someone that doesn’t have to love you is deep, its true, and its the most genuine of human emotion and character. When real love happens, when you see it unravel in the ways that it works wholeheartedly is profound, complicated, confusing, and impossibly possible (now you know why people cling to the trope and figure of Jesus Christ). It’s this idea that makes people want to live longer. It’s this concept of love despite the fear of disappointment and inevitable death that keeps and makes peace and inclusivity possible. The absence of love causes mental health issues and division, just like the absence of light is darkness and loneliness. Conditional love (masked emotional confusions and uncertainty ), the love that is so commonly mistaken for unconditional love (genuine love) is what we don’t know how to feel or what to do when we feel it (unless its from a parent or guardian to a child which can still have complication). How crazy it sounds that this can be felt by us, by people, especially people who are different, is what we need (and what is taught in every central religion essentially) that people don’t understand and cant contemplate. We need this love toward each other, everyone, not just people who are like us or share similar ideological, political, or religious views. We need love despite what separates us and what makes us distant from one another. We need love. Unconditional love.