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Affirmations for Welcoming Transformations of Peace and Self-Love

If you’re like me and currently on a journey of transformation in self-love and self-acceptance but struggle with negative self-talk and believing in change, here are four affirmations that are helping me shift my perspective on what it means to believe and accept peace, love, and abundance:

  1. I am ready to receive all that I deserve.
  2. I welcome my transformation in self-love and self-worth.
  3. I am accepting of myself and all that makes me who I am.
  4. There is free flowing love and peace present in my life.

See these affirmations on my TikTok here.

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Powerful Words and Thought-Provoking Questions: Consistency

Consistency is the agreement you make with what’s important to you. While consistency takes work, it also takes patience, persistence, and mindfulness. Without consistency, there is an imbalance of priorities and effort in what you invest your time doing. What are you consistent with? What are you not consistent with? What does your consistency tell you about your priorities?


Here are some questions to consider when you evaluate the relationship you have with consistency:

1. Are you putting effort, time, patience, and work into what’s important to you?

2. Are you keeping your word?

3. Are you making excuses?
4. Are you considering other people’s needs besides your own?
5. Is there mutuality and balance in your relationships?
6. Are you avoiding or distracting yourself from the things that hurt you?
7. Are those distractions hurting or helping your priorities?
8. Are you keeping up with your distractions or your healing?
9. What can you improve in your relationships, goals, and priorities moving forward?
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Defying Shadows: How I’m Overcoming the Fear of “What Ifs” as Someone With Depression, Anxiety, and PTSD

Although my fear of the unknown masked as “what if” questions continue to greet me early in the morning, I can find refuge in knowing I can go to my self-care tools to fight back and be more mindful about the thoughts I encourage.”

Article Link: How I’m Overcoming the Fear of “What Ifs” as Someone With Depression, Anxiety, and PTSD

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You Are Not Defeated

Even if the odds are great and the challenges overbearing; even if what is in your face seems larger than life; even if the weight is heavy and the future seems bleak all that you are is greater, larger, and stronger than the mountains and hurdles that are placed in your life to stop you.

What you are is more despite those emotions that hold massive pressure in your body.

When I look at you I see a person that can do it. Whatever you see, feel, and want is yours. Take it. Push the mountains to the side. Claim what is yours.

Your joy, peace, and perseverance is yours.

You are not defeated.

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Beginning the Process of Letting Go: Space, Grace, and Time

Release the tension in your shoulders, sit straight, and breathe. Give yourself time, space, and the grace necessary to let go of anything you are holding on to. Allow the ebbs and flows of the process to teach you what you need to progress and move forward.

  • What makes you feel frustrated or unhappy?
  • What memories resurface?
  • Who can you ask for help?
  • How can you prioritize yourself better?
  • What are your next steps in processing your emotional healing?
  • What do you need?

Listen to your body.
Listen to your triggers.
Understand yourself.
Affirm you are ready to move forward.

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Sometimes It’s Hard to Remember…

Sometimes it’s hard to remember the thoughts we try to forget about. That one childhood memory that brings everything back or even the ones that happened just last year. And even though we thought it was behind us, in a split second it’s staring us in the face. The feelings flood back and so does the pain, frustration, and confusion, too. Sometimes it’s easier to avoid the memory and pretend it’s not real, to repress it, of course, so we don’t have to feel.

But, as hard as it is to relive those painful memories, the ones we avoid with every part of us, they resurface.

Those memories are telling us to feel them. Without feeling them and processing how they shaped us, we hold that pain within our bodies. We often see those memories wanting to come out; in our dreams, our behavior, through our fears. To process pain and memories is to honor and love ourselves. We are not meant to hold baggage and to suffer unnecessarily. We do not live to suffer, although it seems this way.

Process the memories and express how they made you feel. What did you learn from that memory? How do you see yourself moving on from it?

Empowerment is the constant processing of pain, thoughts, and perspectives into ambition, potential, action, and advocacy. Our stories are what empowers us.

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Are You Holding On To Something? Read This

Often times we stay stuck in the reality of our past. We dwell and ruminate on the what-ifs and maybes. We stand in what we can’t walk away from. But, that doesn’t have to be where we are forever. We can give ourselves permission to move forward. We can dissect and navigate our mistakes, regrets, and pain in order to clear the path of progress for ourselves. The more we become comfortable with our discomfort and adjust our eyes in the darkest parts of ourselves, we learn to forgive what we were and make room for who we can become.

Make room for yourself to walk forward. Clear a path so that you can forgive and lift the weight that’s been keeping you standing instead of moving forward. Manifest something different. Manifest clarity and grace. Manifest wellness and peace. You deserve to feel free. This is your time for freedom.

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You Are Valid

Stand firm and know that what you feel and experience is valid. There is no checklist or standard to what makes your story enough to cause pain, growth, or transformation. Wherever you are in your journey, whatever frustrations, confusions, turmoil, or changes influence how you are perceiving the events that happen to you is your call to make. There is no shame in feeling what you feel.

No need to compare yourself to anyone, downplay what you are feeling, or over-explain any part of your story. You are valid in whatever stage you are in. Receive the support or help that is necessary to get you where you need/want to go in your growth and healing.

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A Series of Quotes: Recycling Pain Through Our Behavior

Growth and Transformation Through Awareness: Pain and Toxic Traits

We all have a way in which we think and act based on our beliefs and ideas. Sometimes, however, our judgment and growth are clouded by the pain and trauma we often recycle through our toxic habits and behaviors.

The tricky thing about pain is how deeply rooted it is. We don’t see our behavior as toxic or hurtful until it’s too late and we’ve already hurt someone we might care for.

In order to identify those toxic cycles, we must grow in self-awareness. The more self-aware we become, the more we are able to catch ourselves and understand why we act the way we do. Although some behaviors may appear harmless, like numbing our feelings and trying not to cope with our pain, if repressed for too long, will eventually appear in our behavior.

Projection occurs when we place how we treat ourselves onto the people we love or want to love. Often unconsciously our own self-abandonment is how we begin to treat those around us.

The first step in feeling our pain is to accept that we’ve hurt someone and forgive ourselves. If we hold onto the pain and regret, it will stay with us and lead how we treat those who enter our lives.

Once aware, begin the process of identifying in what ways we can improve and begin to love ourselves in that process. Although we can’t undo another person’s pain, we can improve and heal through our own. We must learn who we are and the pain that guided our past self.

The growth that self-awareness brings can resurface memories and thoughts that created the original pain, but that process will birth a transformed perspective.

We learn through experiences and wanting to do better. Without the urge to do better, the pain will validate itself and remain how we see ourselves.

Important note: This process can be difficult to do on our own but I found therapy, self-help books, meditation, writing, reflective exercises, support groups, and mental health resources to be a great help in beginning this process.