The choice to be calm is a talent. Even with all that goes on in my head, and the worry that sometimes consumes my thoughts, I CHOOSE to be gentle, mindful, and calm.
With each day, I allow myself to reflect, take what I need, let go of what I don’t, and move on with grace.
I will not panic.
I will not worry.
I will not stress.
I will map out my next steps and take one moment at a time.
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@JacquelineWhitney_ posted this open-ended prompt on her Instagram story.
While debating whether to participate, respond, and complete this prompt, I thought about lessons I learned in the past year. What new perspective and positive self-talk do I want to continue and pursue during this year and after? I decided I wanted to continue on through the new year with confidence in my ability to believe in myself and my strength. Using ongoing active positive statements to lead in further progress, I’m able to achieve my goal of pursuing, believing, and working toward all I’m able to.
The word of the year is confidence.
Learn with self-compassion in mind. As you move toward progressing into who you want to become, know who you are. Understand yourself enough to plan and execute decisions that are fit for you, your schedule, and what you can endure. It’s necessary to have boundaries and strategic goals as you enter new spaces.
Be your own leader as you negotiate, navigate, and critically think about the opportunities that come your way.
You are worthy of greatness and success, but remember to think everything through. Failure is a state of mind, move on from opportunities that did not fit your journey. Keep trying.
You are in control of yourself. Remember to include yourself in every decision. Move at a steady pace, there is no rush.
Let’s make our next decisions moments we are proud of.
For some, the holiday season is especially difficult to deal with. So, what does it mean to prioritize your mental health during this time of year?
Check out my Defying Shadows article where I explain and express some helpful tips for dealing with the holidays like asking yourself important questions, navigating the best tactics to stay mentally stable, and embracing boundaries!
Making choices and decisions require time, effort, knowledge, and patience. As we navigate and explore our options, we may find ourselves overwhelmed and strained from weighing the options that will determine the next steps we will have to take.
These next steps will challenge us in how we view ourselves and whether certain options outweigh the others.
As you weigh your options remember:
- You are capable of success.
- You are able to make the decisions yourself.
- It is ok to ask for help.
- It is ok to say no to opportunities that are not a good fit.
- Give yourself time to think and evaluate.
- Never make decisions to try to make someone else happy.
- Make the decision based on what’s best for you.
- Think about who you are as you navigate your options.
- Think about your strengths, weaknesses, boundaries, limits, and truths.
- Stay true to yourself as you make decisions that will change your life.
- Be brave and courageous.
- Try something new.
- Be patient and kind to yourself.
Making decisions and evaluating options and choices is mentally draining. As we know better ourselves in each opportunity, we become better at making those choices and are content with those decisions after.
Keep trying. Stay motivated. Stay focused.
You are worthy of the life you see for yourself.
I will make decisions based on what’s best for me and who I am.
I will know myself, love myself, and not work simply to survive.
I will give myself time and be patient with my process.
I will hold my head up when my answer is no and proudly keep striving for what’s best for me.
I will work hard and keep looking.
I will know who I am in this process.
I will not live for anyone else but myself.
My mistakes will be my own and I will take responsibility for my life.
I will be great.
I know I can be great.
Don’t unpack your bags in a place that will harm your progress and make you feel like you don’t deserve better. Settling in dangerous territory will only open your wombs and create chaos in your mind. Better is always and will always be an option. Staying in toxic places and situations is a step backwards. Move forward in your already achieved progress. Don’t put your things down until you know its for your betterment.