You are in charge of your power and energy. Notice what you are investing your time in and ask if those investments are serving your needs.
If you find your needs not being met, reclaim peace of mind by honoring your needs and resetting your standards and boundaries.
You are in control of your power. Use your energy wisely. You are important.
From now on, we nourish and care for our needs too.
Speak up.
Allow your voice to fill the room, especially when matters concern you and your well-being. Ask questions and be present in important conversations.
Don’t be afraid. Don’t fall into the shadows.
You matter and so does your voice and what you have to say. Learn as you grow in your own confidence and assertiveness. If you need something, say something. If something feels off and uncomfortable, let the right person know or find someone who will be helpful to you.
Take care of yourself.
You are important.
There is no shame in asking for help when needed.
While we often believe we can accomplish everything on our own, help is often necessary to get where we want to go. Whether we get help for personal or professional reasons, the help will allow us the resources and knowledge to push past our obstacles!
Asking for help is one of the most fundamental ways to get ahead, but due to the type of help sometimes it’s difficult to reach out and get the assistance we need.
Here are some helpful tips to consider when asking for help:
Enter new situations with an open mind. As much as we think we are similar to those around us, we all have different experiences that shape how we behave and what we believe. The important part when it comes to new experiences, however, is to separate what we believe will happen or want to happen based on those preconceived beliefs from the reality of what’s going on. At times we may attach our expectations on these situations and in turn, ignore what is actually going on.
Sit back and observe instead of leading the experience with expectation. Who are we talking with? Where are we? How do I feel? Being mindful of ourselves and what is happening will allow us to make a decision whether this is a situation we want to continue engaging in or exiting.
Adjust to what is presented and allow the experience to flow as it may. What fits, will fit. What falls, will fall.
Whether you are highly sensitive, vulnerable to energies, have a high sense of intuition, or are big on healing/helping others it is especially important to be grounded in your independence, boundaries, and sense of self. While it’s easy to believe you have the ability to change or alter how someone thinks or approaches life, it is not true that you can help/fix everyone you come in contact with.
There are times where your kindness will be taken for weakness making you susceptible to getting hurt by someone who does not have your best interest at heart. In order to become clear of your stance in any relationship without being manipulated, make sure to set clear and solid boundaries (and stick to them), know and become comfortable with yourself (whether its what you like, dislike, or are uncomfortable with), and be smart about your comfort level. While we pride ourselves in being open books, sometimes it takes getting to know someone before exposing real information about ourselves. Being patient will play a huge role in this process.
Growth, self-improvement, peace, and patience can motivate you to protect yourself and your mental stability. You and your energy are important.
Practice self-care, self-awareness, compassion, empathy, and critical thinking in order to build a higher sense of self and safety. Take the time out to understand what is happening in a situation before immersing your entire self in it. Your body and intuition will tell you when something is not right. Listen to it. We might get excited about what something could be instead of what it actually is and before we know it we are not where we thought we would be.
Love yourself enough to take your time, talk things through, and say no when necessary. You are responsible for yourself and what you allow. What are your standards?
As you come in contact with new people ask yourself critical questions in order to get a firm footing in what you actually want out of that interaction. We may like to think of ourselves as void of wanting something specific, but we must ask ourselves what is our motive. We may be in difficult spots in our lives and before we take care of ourselves we take pride in taking care of others. We tend to look for things to fix instead of looking inward for healing.
Where are we in our lives? Do we need a break? How am I feeling? What do I want? How am I coming off to others? Am I practicing self-care?
Become self-aware in yourself and in turn you can protect yourself and your sensitivities.
What we see for ourselves is limited to how we see ourselves. Can we see ourselves in a place, situation, circumstance that is more? Can we see ourselves as more? Let’s start thinking in terms of abundance and opportunity. Not everything is a loss or a failure. There is more out there. There are spaces you belong in, there are people who need to hear your story, there are opportunities that you fit but you can’t see yourself in. See yourself in abundance. Say “what’s next?” and not “that’s all I see myself doing.”
There is too much to be done for you not to see how big your purpose is. Branch out. You are needed. Your life plan might not be what is coming. Let go of what didn’t work and continue to progress. Keep on regardless of downfalls, setbacks, or failed attempts. That wasn’t for you. What is for you is waiting in the midst of learning and accepting abundance. Once you see how much is out there, you will not stop till you find what you’re excited doing. Abundance will teach you open-mindedness. Keep trying.
Learn with self-compassion in mind. As you move toward progressing into who you want to become, know who you are. Understand yourself enough to plan and execute decisions that are fit for you, your schedule, and what you can endure. It’s necessary to have boundaries and strategic goals as you enter new spaces.
Be your own leader as you negotiate, navigate, and critically think about the opportunities that come your way.
You are worthy of greatness and success, but remember to think everything through. Failure is a state of mind, move on from opportunities that did not fit your journey. Keep trying.
You are in control of yourself. Remember to include yourself in every decision. Move at a steady pace, there is no rush.
Let’s make our next decisions moments we are proud of.
Change is taboo for those who do not want shifts that may make them uncomfortable. Unfamiliar spaces make us feel like we’re out of control, therefore, causing us anxiety. What do we do when we are faced with changes? Not all changes are positive (or feel positive). What do we do when changes affect our mental health?
Think of these questions when you are faced with uncomfortable changes.
As we move and shift around in our daily lives, we will learn that change is inevitable, but sometimes we don’t know how to think about unfamiliar territory creeping into our comfort zone. What do we do? We challenge ourselves to use our changes to fuel our growth. We navigate those changes to help us and not hurt or hinder our progress.
Making choices and decisions require time, effort, knowledge, and patience. As we navigate and explore our options, we may find ourselves overwhelmed and strained from weighing the options that will determine the next steps we will have to take.
These next steps will challenge us in how we view ourselves and whether certain options outweigh the others.
As you weigh your options remember:
Making decisions and evaluating options and choices is mentally draining. As we know better ourselves in each opportunity, we become better at making those choices and are content with those decisions after.
Keep trying. Stay motivated. Stay focused.
You are worthy of the life you see for yourself.
When you feel stressed, know that you are in power and will always be in power. Break down your tasks and next steps in order to give yourself a reasonable work load. Leave some things for another day. If stress is coming from a difficult circumstance, know that you can change your mood and gain control of your outlook of it.
Stress is not what is controlling you but a reaction when you feel things are getting too overwhelming.
When I’m stressed I think about what prompted me to begin my task or make a certain decision in the first place. Thinking about this helps me to keep going and centers my motivation. I can reevaluate my passions and focus on getting what I want out of what I’m doing. I can make further decisions when I can feel the joy of finishing or making someone else’s life better or mine.
When you feel yourself becoming stressed, stop and think. Why am I doing this?
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