Change is taboo for those who do not want shifts that may make them uncomfortable. Unfamiliar spaces make us feel like we’re out of control, therefore, causing us anxiety. What do we do when we are faced with changes? Not all changes are positive (or feel positive). What do we do when changes affect our mental health?
Think of these questions when you are faced with uncomfortable changes.
- How do I feel about this change?
- What does this change mean to me?
- How is this change affecting how I view or see this person, place, thing, or idea?
- Who am I in this change?
- Are ways I’m dealing with this change toxic to me or people around me?
- Who can I talk to in regards to this change?
- How can I live productively with this change?
- Is there a way to think about this change differently? Maybe in a way that benefits my growth?
- How do I move forward from this change?
- What are healthy ways to handle this change?
As we move and shift around in our daily lives, we will learn that change is inevitable, but sometimes we don’t know how to think about unfamiliar territory creeping into our comfort zone. What do we do? We challenge ourselves to use our changes to fuel our growth. We navigate those changes to help us and not hurt or hinder our progress.
Making choices and decisions require time, effort, knowledge, and patience. As we navigate and explore our options, we may find ourselves overwhelmed and strained from weighing the options that will determine the next steps we will have to take.
These next steps will challenge us in how we view ourselves and whether certain options outweigh the others.
As you weigh your options remember:
- You are capable of success.
- You are able to make the decisions yourself.
- It is ok to ask for help.
- It is ok to say no to opportunities that are not a good fit.
- Give yourself time to think and evaluate.
- Never make decisions to try to make someone else happy.
- Make the decision based on what’s best for you.
- Think about who you are as you navigate your options.
- Think about your strengths, weaknesses, boundaries, limits, and truths.
- Stay true to yourself as you make decisions that will change your life.
- Be brave and courageous.
- Try something new.
- Be patient and kind to yourself.
Making decisions and evaluating options and choices is mentally draining. As we know better ourselves in each opportunity, we become better at making those choices and are content with those decisions after.
Keep trying. Stay motivated. Stay focused.
You are worthy of the life you see for yourself.
When you feel stressed, know that you are in power and will always be in power. Break down your tasks and next steps in order to give yourself a reasonable work load. Leave some things for another day. If stress is coming from a difficult circumstance, know that you can change your mood and gain control of your outlook of it.
Stress is not what is controlling you but a reaction when you feel things are getting too overwhelming.
When I’m stressed I think about what prompted me to begin my task or make a certain decision in the first place. Thinking about this helps me to keep going and centers my motivation. I can reevaluate my passions and focus on getting what I want out of what I’m doing. I can make further decisions when I can feel the joy of finishing or making someone else’s life better or mine.
When you feel yourself becoming stressed, stop and think. Why am I doing this?
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Your voice is your power and your strength. Without your voice you limit yourself and your potential to make a change in others people’s minds and perspectives.
Don’t be silent. Create a path of communication with your mouth, body, mind, and approach to life. Your life and your thoughts are worth listening to.
Remember to respect, listen, ask questions, and understand.
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Remind yourself that you can create and navigate your career. Open your minds to different paths and approaches that all ultimately lead to your potential and interests. Don’t lock yourself in a cliche. Build who you want to become on the blocks of your opportunities.
Know that your potential is limitless once you understand the extent of what you can do with your interests. Research and open your mind to what you can do and the places you can go to utilize your strengths. You are your limit. Use your imagination. Create the position you want to be in. Be a boss. Be a leader.
In order to do what you want, to be in the position you want, you would have to find it or create it. Don’t be afraid to think outside your comfort zone and do what you think you can’t. Try different angles, attempt multiple approaches to your interests. You will get where you want to go. Believe in your work and experience.
Get to working!
Know when various factors are holding you hostage and know you can set yourself free. Understand your worth and fight for your mental peace. Don’t be afraid of change or struggling. Understand your circumstances and what you have to face. You can know peace and learn calmness. Set yourself free. You deserve to be free.
Last month’s bulletin topics were focused on thinking, effective ways of responding, and gaining knowlege while interacting with others. As we move toward a more respectful and effective way of communicating with others we first must listen to what others have to say, don’t just hear to respond, but listen to understand. Contribute to the conversation and effectively come to a consensus. If we are to be more peaceful, logical, and respectful contributors to society we must push to gain perspective and knowledge.
Learn to listen.
Learn to stay quiet.
Learn to understand.
Respect people who do not share the same experiences as you.
Support as you interact with others. The way you respond in sensitive situations will allow for healing and growth for the ones listening. Learn to understand in the process of supporting. Effective supporting comes with time, patience, and thinking. Use language thoughtfully. How you say something is as important as what you say and when you say it. Support in your body language and in your gestures.
Support even when you feel you don’t need to. Always support and be a helping hug or compliment. Love in your support.
February: Perseverance and Confidence
May: Self-Care and Self-Appreciation
June: Talent and Creativity
August: Moving Forward, Progression and Transformation
October: Compassion and Kindness
November: Strength and Power
December: Endings, Beginnings, and Continuations
Building perspective is what builds character and what allows you to move to the realm of transformation. To understand others is to understand yourself in a community and as an individual. To understand control, perseverance, confidence, purpose, self-acceptance, self-care, self-appreciation, talent, creativity, love, moving forward, progression, empathy, compassion, kindness, strength, power, and what it means to continue, end and begin in order to transform into yourself. While you look into yourself, how you experience life, and what it means to build your identity in your individuality is to explore yourself in concepts and ideas. Who am I? What do I like? How do I love? How do I become better? How do I work on my mental health? How do I grow?
Continue in your life, in your journey, and in your purpose. Being alive is a purpose in itself. Be yourself. Build yourself. Love yourself.