There is no shame in asking for help when needed.
While we often believe we can accomplish everything on our own, help is often necessary to get where we want to go. Whether we get help for personal or professional reasons, the help will allow us the resources and knowledge to push past our obstacles!
Asking for help is one of the most fundamental ways to get ahead, but due to the type of help sometimes it’s difficult to reach out and get the assistance we need.
Here are some helpful tips to consider when asking for help:
- Research the help you need based on what you think is best for you.
- Don’t be afraid to ask questions!
- Receiving the right help for you can take multiple attempts.
- Keep trying even if you don’t get the help you need at first.
- Not everyone you ask for help will help you. Do not get discouraged.
- Help can be given in different ways. Be open-minded.
- Just because someone can’t help you doesn’t mean they can’t be a resource, ask if they know anyone who can.
- Extract information from all avenues of support.
- Remember that you are brave for asking for help.
- Know your worth!
Enter new situations with an open mind. As much as we think we are similar to those around us, we all have different experiences that shape how we behave and what we believe. The important part when it comes to new experiences, however, is to separate what we believe will happen or want to happen based on those preconceived beliefs from the reality of what’s going on. At times we may attach our expectations on these situations and in turn, ignore what is actually going on.
Sit back and observe instead of leading the experience with expectation. Who are we talking with? Where are we? How do I feel? Being mindful of ourselves and what is happening will allow us to make a decision whether this is a situation we want to continue engaging in or exiting.
Adjust to what is presented and allow the experience to flow as it may. What fits, will fit. What falls, will fall.
What we see for ourselves is limited to how we see ourselves. Can we see ourselves in a place, situation, circumstance that is more? Can we see ourselves as more? Let’s start thinking in terms of abundance and opportunity. Not everything is a loss or a failure. There is more out there. There are spaces you belong in, there are people who need to hear your story, there are opportunities that you fit but you can’t see yourself in. See yourself in abundance. Say “what’s next?” and not “that’s all I see myself doing.”
There is too much to be done for you not to see how big your purpose is. Branch out. You are needed. Your life plan might not be what is coming. Let go of what didn’t work and continue to progress. Keep on regardless of downfalls, setbacks, or failed attempts. That wasn’t for you. What is for you is waiting in the midst of learning and accepting abundance. Once you see how much is out there, you will not stop till you find what you’re excited doing. Abundance will teach you open-mindedness. Keep trying.
Learn with self-compassion in mind. As you move toward progressing into who you want to become, know who you are. Understand yourself enough to plan and execute decisions that are fit for you, your schedule, and what you can endure. It’s necessary to have boundaries and strategic goals as you enter new spaces.
Be your own leader as you negotiate, navigate, and critically think about the opportunities that come your way.
You are worthy of greatness and success, but remember to think everything through. Failure is a state of mind, move on from opportunities that did not fit your journey. Keep trying.
You are in control of yourself. Remember to include yourself in every decision. Move at a steady pace, there is no rush.
Let’s make our next decisions moments we are proud of.
Change is taboo for those who do not want shifts that may make them uncomfortable. Unfamiliar spaces make us feel like we’re out of control, therefore, causing us anxiety. What do we do when we are faced with changes? Not all changes are positive (or feel positive). What do we do when changes affect our mental health?
Think of these questions when you are faced with uncomfortable changes.
- How do I feel about this change?
- What does this change mean to me?
- How is this change affecting how I view or see this person, place, thing, or idea?
- Who am I in this change?
- Are ways I’m dealing with this change toxic to me or people around me?
- Who can I talk to in regards to this change?
- How can I live productively with this change?
- Is there a way to think about this change differently? Maybe in a way that benefits my growth?
- How do I move forward from this change?
- What are healthy ways to handle this change?
As we move and shift around in our daily lives, we will learn that change is inevitable, but sometimes we don’t know how to think about unfamiliar territory creeping into our comfort zone. What do we do? We challenge ourselves to use our changes to fuel our growth. We navigate those changes to help us and not hurt or hinder our progress.
Making choices and decisions require time, effort, knowledge, and patience. As we navigate and explore our options, we may find ourselves overwhelmed and strained from weighing the options that will determine the next steps we will have to take.
These next steps will challenge us in how we view ourselves and whether certain options outweigh the others.
As you weigh your options remember:
- You are capable of success.
- You are able to make the decisions yourself.
- It is ok to ask for help.
- It is ok to say no to opportunities that are not a good fit.
- Give yourself time to think and evaluate.
- Never make decisions to try to make someone else happy.
- Make the decision based on what’s best for you.
- Think about who you are as you navigate your options.
- Think about your strengths, weaknesses, boundaries, limits, and truths.
- Stay true to yourself as you make decisions that will change your life.
- Be brave and courageous.
- Try something new.
- Be patient and kind to yourself.
Making decisions and evaluating options and choices is mentally draining. As we know better ourselves in each opportunity, we become better at making those choices and are content with those decisions after.
Keep trying. Stay motivated. Stay focused.
You are worthy of the life you see for yourself.
When I look at myself, this is what I see. I see someone who is able, but troubled, someone who loves, who cares, a fighter, a creator, a writer, an empath. When I see myself, I see someone who is many things. I see someone who has the power to be someone. I see change. I see struggle. I see growth.
Look at yourself. What do you see?
Make sure to look at all parts of you. All the parts that make you someone.
Sometimes we look at ourselves and we don’t know what we see. We don’t know who we are.
Look at yourself and tell me what you see.
You are a beautiful multifaceted masterpiece. It’s not enough to look at our pain and let it define all of who we are. We have to break ourselves apart to get to every piece of jewel.
We have so much in us that we toss to the side. We must dig deep to find our drive and our will to continuously know who we are.
Let’s find our light together.
Heal with me.
Comment below what you see when you look at yourself. Focus on everything (not just the good or the bad, but remember to be gentle with yourself). And as we begin to see, we begin to reflect and to grow in our self-acceptance.
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Your voice is your power and your strength. Without your voice you limit yourself and your potential to make a change in others people’s minds and perspectives.
Don’t be silent. Create a path of communication with your mouth, body, mind, and approach to life. Your life and your thoughts are worth listening to.
Remember to respect, listen, ask questions, and understand.
This will be the last bulletin post based on weeks that include dates. Bulletins will now be posted as their own posts!
Remind yourself that you can create and navigate your career. Open your minds to different paths and approaches that all ultimately lead to your potential and interests. Don’t lock yourself in a cliche. Build who you want to become on the blocks of your opportunities.
Know that your potential is limitless once you understand the extent of what you can do with your interests. Research and open your mind to what you can do and the places you can go to utilize your strengths. You are your limit. Use your imagination. Create the position you want to be in. Be a boss. Be a leader.
In order to do what you want, to be in the position you want, you would have to find it or create it. Don’t be afraid to think outside your comfort zone and do what you think you can’t. Try different angles, attempt multiple approaches to your interests. You will get where you want to go. Believe in your work and experience.
Get to working!
Last month’s bulletin topics were focused on thinking, effective ways of responding, and gaining knowlege while interacting with others. As we move toward a more respectful and effective way of communicating with others we first must listen to what others have to say, don’t just hear to respond, but listen to understand. Contribute to the conversation and effectively come to a consensus. If we are to be more peaceful, logical, and respectful contributors to society we must push to gain perspective and knowledge.
Learn to listen.
Learn to stay quiet.
Learn to understand.
Respect people who do not share the same experiences as you.