I remember when I was a teenager I struggled a lot with my self-esteem and self-worth. I later realized because of this my perception of love was impacted; I struggled so much especially with self-love. I remember always wanting to be in a relationship and being in the “fairy tale” type of love story. I thought that I would only be satisfied with the idea of love if I was in a romantic relationship with my “soulmate.” Valentines day hit me hard every year because, to me, it was a reminder of my failures in love.
It took me up until now, as an adult, to slowly learn to love myself fully and unconditionally. I would tell my teenage self that love is all around me — from how I speak to myself, to the ones I surround myself with; from my creativity to my advocacy work; from how I interact with others to being in nature and expressing gratitude for what I have. Love is everywhere, I just have to open myself up to feel it.
Warm and Friendly Reminder: Love is vast and can show up in many different ways including in friendships, family (biological or otherwise), romanic relationships, in work/hobbies, in nature, and in self-love. Love is never too far away.
Affirmations you can practice for self-love:
“I am worthy of acceptance and love.”
“I love myself.”
“Love is all around me.”
What about you? What would you tell your teenage self about love?
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I overcome every challenge I’m faced with and learn the lessons necessary to help me move forward. I am proud of myself for doing my best every step of the way. Even on the toughest days, I’m stronger than I think. I am ready to continue forward doing what’s best for me.
It’s okay to be intentional with what you do. Continue to try even when you feel stuck, lost, or unmotivated.
When you find yourself slipping into negative thought patterns, fear, hesitation, procrastination, or overthinking, stop for a second and create a positive/helpful intention for yourself. Whether this be a simple affirmation: “I am safe,” or a plan of action: “I will drink some water and reach out to my friend today,” creating pockets of reassurance and abundance can help move you out of spaces of lack and stagnancy.
Light your own path as you continue to work through the challenges of every day. Build peace within yourself by taking advantage of every moment. You are in control. Be in control.
What is something you want to work on this year? What are some agreements you want to make with yourself?
For me, I agree to be gentle with myself and take one moment at a time. I choose peace and prioritize my health; physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I want to work on feeling good about positive things happening to me and believing I deserve them when they happen. I believe in greatness for myself. I’ve worked so hard to make it this far.
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The words that are themes for me this year, in 2022, are “intuition” and “boundaries.
As I actualize myself this year in confidence and freedom, I will listen and pay attention to my needs, wants, desires and intuition. I step forward with better understanding of my thoughts, behaviors, habits and growth. I continuously attract what is for my highest good and take opportunities that are best for me.
I am kind to myself as I navigate through tough emotions like frustration, shame, guilt and anger and I do so with grace and compassion for myself.
I grow in awareness of how to create safe and comfortable spaces for myself and do so regularly.
I am worthy of love and balance. I create the reality I deserve.
I welcome peace every morning. I am ready for each day.
Set a new year intention:
What word or words are your themes for 2022?
What affirmation, mantra, or agreement can you create and practice to help you to remember and stick to your intention?
As we move forward toward the end of the year into a new year, let’s reflect on all we’ve accomplished and the goals we’ve set. Getting to this point is nothing short of amazing. I’m so proud of my Pencil Case family. With celebrating wins and the creation of new goals also comes the things we want to leave behind us. The things that we don’t want to carry around anymore. What do you want to let go of? What do you want to leave in 2021?
Here is a list of what I want to leave in 2021:
The phrase ”I can’t”.
Any low-frequency thoughts that limit my power and potential.
Not speaking up for myself or my needs.
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You deserve the best love, support, relationships, friendships, and experiences. You deserve abundance, wealth, and opportunities. You deserve to treat yourself with kindness and love. You deserve growth. You deserve peace. You deserve to find communities that understand you. You deserve to be accepted. Your voice deserves to be heard.