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You Are An Alchemist

In the process of growth we may come to a standstill in whether we want or are able to face the trauma inside of ourselves. We become afraid of feeling the feelings that are repressed. In those moments we ask ourselves, what do I do with this pain? Unprocessed pain manifests as disease, disorders, attachments, triggers, habits, negativity and other blockages that show us a lack or need in the energy within us. So what, in turn, do we do with the pain in our bodies? We must release it. We are not meant to suffer and hold on to pain for long periods of time. If we survived the process of enduring this pain we are also able to alchemize it. Standing in our power allows us to transform and create  something new in the process of releasing the pain that we may be holding. We are the creators of our own realities.

Alchemize your pain and transform into the indestructable being you are. Stand in your power. Allow the pain to be transformed in your favor. Learn the lesson and release the blockage. The lesson turns into an increase in awareness. You have all the abilities to do so. Pain does not define you and does not have to define or dictate your life.

I believe in you.

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Let Go of Your Ego Expectations

You know what you need to do to get where you need to go. Step into your power as you tune into your awareness. Believe in your ability to make good decisions. It’s okay to make mistakes, mistakes are staircases to knowledge and understanding. Learn and listen. Pay attention. You got it. There’s no need to doubt yourself.

Use these affirmations:

1. I am in control.

2. I know who I am.

3. I am enough.

4. I create my reality.

5. I am abundance.

6. I trust myself.

7. I make good decisions.

8. I have good ideas.

9. I am successful.

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Late Night Talks With Nina, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Quotes, Self-Care, Self-Talk

Learning the Discomfort in Growth

Bask in the discomfort of change. Challenge old habits and behaviors that keep you in karmic cycles, reliving the same scenario with different people, places, and circumstances. What do you need to learn? How can you claim what you know is yours? The more you learn the better you will understand your power. You are in control of your life.

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Quotes, Reflection, Self-Care, Self-Talk

The Phoenix Transformation: Shift in Awareness

This season has presented many changes in my life, and with those changes a rebirth in understanding what self-care, self-worth, abundance, attraction and expectation mean to me. I learned that sometimes we need to walk away from people, places, and things that we care about and love. This doesn’t mean we no longer care and love these people, places, and things, but it does mean that until we are able to love, cherish, and value ourselves, there is a lack in what we can offer.

When we give from a place of lack, we deplete ourselves of the limited energy we posses because we are constantly giving to others. We are filling voids instead of nourishing and aiding through our passions and gifts.

Once we step away to feed and nourish ourselves and to see the immersearable value that is us, we can share the unconditional love we have for ourselves but with others. We no longer cling to unrealistic expectations that we will find what we are looking for outside of ourselves, but realize what we are looking for is us, it’s alignment and balance within who we are. We identify triggers, put our needs first, ask for support when needed, undo generational trauma and have those hard conversations. What do I need? Where do I fit in this conversation? What am I learning?

We no longer run when we feel uncomfortable but sit in that discomfort to ask ourselves the right question: what is this teaching me? Lack of a lesson is also a lesson, a lesson of letting go and moving forward regardless of understanding. Understanding that we move forward for the simple fact that we deserve better then the situation or circumstance.

Believe that you can experience abundance and peace because it is accessible, you have it already. Say it out loud: I am abundance, peace is within me. It’s okay to feel pain, sadness, grief, and worry, but know that you don’t have to dwell in these emotions. Free yourself from the expectations that what you need is somewhere anywhere else then inside of you already.

Feel the freedom of letting go and learn what it means to unconditionally love yourself. Manifest and affirm that with aligning yourself with love that love with then attract itself to you.

Manifest: I am love.I am ready for love. I receive love.

Posted in Defying Shadows Articles, Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Self-Care, Self-Talk

Defying Shadows Article: Perfectionism, PTSD, and How I’m Learning to Overcome the Hustle Mentality

The hustle mentality for me is driven by a desire for financial freedom and emotional wellness. The flaws in my hustle mentality, however, are rooted in “destination addiction” constantly feeling as though satisfaction is achieved in something I don’t have yet. Because I’m always working for something greater and better than my last accomplishment, I also find myself lost in perfectionism.

Article Link: Perfectionism, PTSD, and How I’m Learning to Overcome the Hustle Mentality

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Living Right Now

Mindfully moving forward while acknowledging the hurt and pain of “what ifs” can be challenging. As we often craft and create what we want our lives to look like, mapping out timelines, we forget to live in what is happening now. Bask in the present and realize the peace we can acquire as we move with each moment as it is given to us. What happens next will soon be our present just as quick as the prior moment became our past. Do the best you can right now and let the next moment happen when the time comes. Welcome something new. Let go of what already happened, step into right now with bravery and grace.

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Roots to Leaflets/From Roots to Mighty Leaflets: A Reflective Exercise

From May to July, I’ve hosted a few virtual events centered around the theme of goals and goal creation. “Roots to Leaflets” or “From to Mighty Leaflets”, two names that were given to this activity, allows us to visualize and articulate our goals and growth using the image of a tree. 

What makes goals and the representation of a tree suitable for this reflective exercise? Let’s dive into how to create growth cycle trees.


Yes, goals are what drive our ambitions — but they can also be the reason why we procrastinate or become intimidated by the possibilities of our future selves. How can we create goals that help us feel good and motivate us to notice our growth?

A tree has three main parts: the roots, the trunk, and the leaves. Each part of the tree, however you draw or collage it, will represent a different part of the goal and growth process. Check out the example below.

Drawing of Nina's

Here is how you can draw your tree using guided questions:

The roots represent your goals. What do you want to accomplish? What makes you feel good? You can also include habits you want to take up or routines that’ll help you feel more refreshed.

The trunk represents your needs. What do you need to do on a daily basis that helps you feel good? What do you need in order to accomplish a particular goal?

The leaves represent your accomplishments. What have you done lately that made you smile and feel proud?

No matter how big or small your goals, needs or successes are — whatever you accomplish is worthy of celebration.

Note: You can create your trees however you envision. Your trees are a reflection of you!

Make your own tree and share it with me! Here is my Mighty group The Pencil Case or Instagram page.

Here is my tree!



From the water running through the soil to the fruits growing alongside the leaves, I’m proud of my growth and accomplishments. Using my goals and needs I can continue to work toward achieving all I know I can achieve.


This activity was featured in The Mighty #CheckInWithMe newsletter which you can subscribe to on the TheMighty.com or Mighty app.

 

Posted in Creative Writing, Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Potential and Worth, Power, Reflection, Self-Care, Self-Talk

My Little Seed

I remember planting this seed and thinking it would never grow. Pressured by the expectation that I’m doing something wrong, I was plagued with thoughts that if it didn’t show it’s growth it would be my fault.

But, although my expectations were low, it grew anyway and the tears I shed when it showed its little leaves made me realize I’m okay.

I’m okay because the seed is planted and as long as I have even the slightest hope that it would grow, it just might grow.

I just might grow, too.

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You Are Valid

Stand firm and know that what you feel and experience is valid. There is no checklist or standard to what makes your story enough to cause pain, growth, or transformation. Wherever you are in your journey, whatever frustrations, confusions, turmoil, or changes influence how you are perceiving the events that happen to you is your call to make. There is no shame in feeling what you feel.

No need to compare yourself to anyone, downplay what you are feeling, or over-explain any part of your story. You are valid in whatever stage you are in. Receive the support or help that is necessary to get you where you need/want to go in your growth and healing.

Posted in Keep Moving: Motivation and Inspiration, Love, Mental Health, Potential and Worth, Power, Quotes, Self-Care, Self-Talk

A Series of Quotes: Recycling Pain Through Our Behavior

Growth and Transformation Through Awareness: Pain and Toxic Traits

We all have a way in which we think and act based on our beliefs and ideas. Sometimes, however, our judgment and growth are clouded by the pain and trauma we often recycle through our toxic habits and behaviors.

The tricky thing about pain is how deeply rooted it is. We don’t see our behavior as toxic or hurtful until it’s too late and we’ve already hurt someone we might care for.

In order to identify those toxic cycles, we must grow in self-awareness. The more self-aware we become, the more we are able to catch ourselves and understand why we act the way we do. Although some behaviors may appear harmless, like numbing our feelings and trying not to cope with our pain, if repressed for too long, will eventually appear in our behavior.

Projection occurs when we place how we treat ourselves onto the people we love or want to love. Often unconsciously our own self-abandonment is how we begin to treat those around us.

The first step in feeling our pain is to accept that we’ve hurt someone and forgive ourselves. If we hold onto the pain and regret, it will stay with us and lead how we treat those who enter our lives.

Once aware, begin the process of identifying in what ways we can improve and begin to love ourselves in that process. Although we can’t undo another person’s pain, we can improve and heal through our own. We must learn who we are and the pain that guided our past self.

The growth that self-awareness brings can resurface memories and thoughts that created the original pain, but that process will birth a transformed perspective.

We learn through experiences and wanting to do better. Without the urge to do better, the pain will validate itself and remain how we see ourselves.

Important note: This process can be difficult to do on our own but I found therapy, self-help books, meditation, writing, reflective exercises, support groups, and mental health resources to be a great help in beginning this process.