Even during the ebbs and flows of life, the painful moments, the lessons, the bad decisions, the storms, its okay to love yourself. Show yourself some compassion and grace today.
Healing Letters of Reflection:
[Topics- Codependency and Anxious Attachment]
I understand now. I understand what I was meant to learn. How I was in pain too. But, I was trying to make you love me, even though you didn’t want to. I’m sorry. You were in pain like me. The cycles of run and chase. I saw something I knew I could love, so I latched onto that feeling. I was wrong though. Because, I was in pain and needed to manage and take care of my heart first. I needed to love myself more and I didn’t. I wanted to love you because I saw myself in you. Maybe loving you would help me love myself? No. That’s not how that works. Being alone was scary. It was a step into an oblivion of nothingness. What am I to do with all this pain I feel into an unknown future? Can I do it? Wow, do I even believe in myself? Who am I? What do I even want? It’s the ideas, the potential, the feeling. It’s the fear of changing into a person I don’t know.
…Well I’m that person now. The person I was scared to become because, who is she? She can see. She gets it. She understands.
I understand now. That I was in pain. I was panicking. Trauma responses left and right. Trying to fix. Fixate. Control. Overexplain. Change someone else. I was the one who needed changing. But, that’s okay…because I understand now. So, thank you. You helped me to see, because everything was foggy back then. I hope everything is good with you. I hope you can understand, too.
Write a letter to someone who helped you to grow.
Healing is not a destination or fixed goal to achieve. This does not mean continuing to struggle, however. Instead, healing is the adaptation to the evolutionary process of self-awareness and self-acceptance. Healing is the constant effort, practice, and process of integration, balance, and shifting of consciousness to self, influencing the elevation of knowing and being.
To heal means getting to know yourself, understanding the depths and necessity of care and love for yourself despite the challenges that may arise. Of course “bad” days will come, but this does not regress the healing process. Healing equips you with tools and resources to have readily available when needed.
Examples of methods, resources, tools, and steps of continuous healing include:
- Envestigating your needs and communicating them with others.
- Understanding the value of boundaries.
- Learning how to set boundaries.
- Exploring limiting beliefs.
- Delving into childhood trauma and how that trauma shapes triggers and trauma responses.
- Reshaping and shifting perspectives to reflect on who you are and what you wants to work toward.
- Defining who you are and understanding self-love.
- Identifying the best methods to prioritize yourself.
- Pin pointing your values.
- Exploring the ideas around identity and beliefs.
- Building healthy relationships with others.
- Learning your communication styles, habits, and preferences.
- Asking for help when necessary.
- Continuing to learn more about yourself and the world around you.
Healing is about the journey. Once embarking on that journey you realize it is not linear and often changes based on what you learn on the way. Focusing on the journey allows for a profound understanding of self as the sole purpose in existence. You yourself are your own purpose. You are important and nothing can change that fact. Healing is the constant conscious effort of actualizing yourself in not only what you do, but also who you are. You are divine energy living a human experience. Prioritize healing. Learn the lessons that need to be learned, connect to yourself, love yourself and everything about you. What are the best ways to take care of yourself? What do you want to improve? What are your shadow traits? What are experience do you need to process? Are you feeling your feelings? Are you expressing yourself? All that makes you who you are is important in this journey of conscious and continous healing.
Healing yourself also heals the world.
What does healing mean to you?
Have the conversations that need to be had with the people you love. Create solid and supportive relationships with the people you care most about. It’s time to speak up. Needs don’t make you needy. Triggers don’t make you weak. Vulnerability doesn’t make you any less of a person. Build the healthy bonds you deserve.
What is a fun fact or important detail about you?
A fun fact about me is I LOVE comfort items like pillows, soft blankets, and stuffed animals.
One important detail about me is that resting is really essential for my mental and physical health. Being highly sensitive, I burn out quicker then others.
Join the conversation here in The Pencil Case on The Mighty!
So very excited to announce the NAMI-NYC Expressive Arts workshop event I will be hosting at the end of the month! This event will be via Zoom and on the NAMI-NYC website. You can find the link here and clicking the Expressive Arts Zoom link for July 31st, 2021.
If you have any questions or concerns feel free to send me an email. The time of the event is in Eastern Standard Time.
**I will share any updates or changes and keep everyone posted.
Here are some details for the event:
Beauty and Horizons
“Beauty and Horizons” is a creative and fun event focused on reflecting on ourselves, our beauty and who we see ourselves to be. Starting with an ice breaker, we will sketch an image and write about one accomplishment that we are most proud of. The main activity will then be to imagine and draw a sunset on the beach. Around the sunset we will list 10 reasons why we are beautiful. Lastly, we will close by sharing our works of art.
Paper, writing utensils (pen, pencil, markers, or crayons).
Hope to see you there!
Ever had a conversation with your higher self, realizing that in those moments the words you speak are also the words you would say to the people you love the most.
Growing in self-love is learning to treat yourself like you would treat someone you love and would want them to be kind to themselves. Encouraging them to keep going and to be strong because you see that in them. As much as you see the strength in them is also the strength that is present in you.
Treat yourself with kindness today. Allow yourself grace through the toughest moment. Remember that emotions don’t make you weak, especially the ones that weigh heavy on your heart.
You are worthy of love and acceptance. No one can take away your strength. No one can strip you of your worth.
I love you.
So very excited to announce the NAMI-NYC Expressive Arts workshop event I will be hosting at the end of the month! This event will be via Zoom and on the NAMI-NYC website. You can find the link by typing in the link in the flyer here and clicking the Expressive Arts Zoom link for May 29th, 2021. If you have any questions or concerns feel free to send me an email. The time of the event is in Eastern Standard Time.
**I will share any updates or changes and keep everyone posted. Here are some details for the event:
Title: I Am The Crafter. I Am The Creator. An Evening of Vision Boards.
Description: “I Am The Crafter. I Am The Creator. An Evening of Vision Boards” is a creative and fun event focused on reflecting on ourselves, our growth, and who we see ourselves to be. Starting with an ice breaker, we will sketch one image and one positive word that describes us, our passions, or a goal that we have. The main activity will then be to draw a vision board that illustrates and represents who we are. There is endless possibilities in creating our vision boards from favorite quotes, affirmations, and mantras, to symbols, goal descriptions, and self-care plans; it’s all up to the us, the crafters! Lastly, we will close by sharing our works of art.
Materials: Paper, writing utensils (pen, pencil, markers, or crayons).
Hope to see you there!
It’s okay to ask for support.
It’s okay if you need some help.
It’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to seek guidance.
It’s okay to reach out and ask for what you need.
It’s okay to advocate for yourself.
Speak your truth. We need to hear your story.
Take your power back from fear, doubt, and hesitancy. Claim your freedom to walk in your power unapologetically. Grow more into yourself. Speak. Know the strength in your words. What is for you is already yours.