Friendly reminder that relationships, whether romantic, familial, or platonic deserve to be tended to with effort, consistency, balance, reciprocity, and respect.
Note: You are not “too much”. It’s okay to stand up for yourself. Accept only what you deserve.
Side Note: Having needs doesn’t mean you are “needy.” Understand the work you need to do within yourself to grow in self-awareness. Know the difference between what you need from yourself and what healthy balanced relationships looks like for you.
Not everyone you meet will be apart of your story. Not everyone you know will remain in your story. The ones that stay, return, or want to make the relationship work regardless of the challenges and differences will be well worth the effort.
It’s okay to be gentle with yourself during transitions in your life. Whether it be moving to a new home, changing doctors/therapists, trying something new, starting a new job/change in finances, changing schools, losing friends, experiencing a breakup, grieving the loss of a love one, or letting go of someone you love and care about, transitions are difficult to cope with.
Learning to adjust and adapt to change is challenging and that’s okay. Know that you are not alone and you can give yourself time to grieve whatever it is you are moving forward from.
Give yourself permission to feel whatever emotions come up with change and reach out if you need to. Your feelings and experiences are valid no matter how “big” or “small” the change.
Every day we are given the opportunity to make different decisions, ones that are more reflective of the person we want to become, more of the person we are working on creating.
Create and craft the reality that reveals the growth and lessons learned along the path you’ve taken. Continue and move forward, not dwelling on the past, but in greater awareness of yourself.
Forgive yourself and do better, better as defined by you, just because you deserve it. You deserve peace, healing, growth, and abundance. You have peace, you are healing, you are growing, and you are abundant.
Take one step and one moment at a time as you face the pain you’ve carried up to this point. Release and relax. Allow yourself the space to feel what you’ve been holding on to.
Take that leap to move in the direction of change. You are deserving of the reality you envision for yourself.
Affirmation: I am learning and growing every day. I make decisions that are best for me. I am deserving of love, acceptance and peace. I am ready.
Reminder: We are all on different paths as we experience life through the lens of our individual perspectives.
What is for you will find you. Continue to do your best and take one moment at a time. There is no rush or timeline to follow. All that matters is the present moment right now.
Practice this new season/new month mantra with me. We can approach this season together.
“With every step I take I allow myself grace and compassion. I listen to my intuition and I take my time. I’m patient with myself and I protect my heart as I navigate the next season of my life. I remind myself that I am safe as I continue to succeed. I am ready.”
Sometimes it feels like we’re always waiting; waiting for a new healthy love, a better job, a fresh start. We might become restless, losing hope in continuously wanting something we don’t have yet. We become engulfed in the what ifs of an ever-changing future.
But what if we’re not supposed to be waiting or anticipating? What if instead, we just live right now? What if we decide and declare what it is we deserve, hold that close, and focus our energy on being present today? What is for us, what we are working for, what we put our efforts into, will happen in alignment with the decisions we make in the present. What we are doing now shapes the moments that follow.
Create and craft each moment to reflect what you want. Create the person you want to be in every moment.
The future is a collection of already made decisions. Once we reach “the future” it will just be the present in that shifted moment. All that matters is right now.
Healing is not a destination or fixed goal to achieve. This does not mean continuing to struggle, however. Instead, healing is the adaptation to the evolutionary process of self-awareness and self-acceptance. Healing is the constant effort, practice, and process of integration, balance, and shifting of consciousness to self, influencing the elevation of knowing and being.
To heal means getting to know yourself, understanding the depths and necessity of care and love for yourself despite the challenges that may arise. Of course “bad” days will come, but this does not regress the healing process. Healing equips you with tools and resources to have readily available when needed.
Examples of methods, resources, tools, and steps of continuous healing include:
Envestigating your needs and communicating them with others.
Understanding the value of boundaries.
Learning how to set boundaries.
Exploring limiting beliefs.
Delving into childhood trauma and how that trauma shapes triggers and trauma responses.
Reshaping and shifting perspectives to reflect on who you are and what you wants to work toward.
Defining who you are and understanding self-love.
Identifying the best methods to prioritize yourself.
Pin pointing your values.
Exploring the ideas around identity and beliefs.
Building healthy relationships with others.
Learning your communication styles, habits, and preferences.
Asking for help when necessary.
Continuing to learn more about yourself and the world around you.
Healing is about the journey. Once embarking on that journey you realize it is not linear and often changes based on what you learn on the way. Focusing on the journey allows for a profound understanding of self as the sole purpose in existence. You yourself are your own purpose. You are important and nothing can change that fact. Healing is the constant conscious effort of actualizing yourself in not only what you do, but also who you are. You are divine energy living a human experience. Prioritize healing. Learn the lessons that need to be learned, connect to yourself, love yourself and everything about you. What are the best ways to take care of yourself? What do you want to improve? What are your shadow traits? What are experience do you need to process? Are you feeling your feelings? Are you expressing yourself? All that makes you who you are is important in this journey of conscious and continous healing.
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