It’s okay to be proud of the progress you’ve made thus far. It might not be where you would like to be, or where you thought you’d be, but regardless, it’s amazing how much work you’ve put in to get to this point. Continue on the path that’s best for you. Alignment comes to those who are consistent in their pursuit to get to where they know they deserve.
Friendly reminder that relationships, whether romantic, familial, or platonic deserve to be tended to with effort, consistency, balance, reciprocity, and respect.
Note: You are not “too much”. It’s okay to stand up for yourself. Accept only what you deserve.
Side Note: Having needs doesn’t mean you are “needy.” Understand the work you need to do within yourself to grow in self-awareness. Know the difference between what you need from yourself and what healthy balanced relationships looks like for you.
Not everyone you meet will be apart of your story. Not everyone you know will remain in your story. The ones that stay, return, or want to make the relationship work regardless of the challenges and differences will be well worth the effort.
Practice this new season/new month mantra with me. We can approach this season together.
“With every step I take I allow myself grace and compassion. I listen to my intuition and I take my time. I’m patient with myself and I protect my heart as I navigate the next season of my life. I remind myself that I am safe as I continue to succeed. I am ready.”
-Bad days don’t make you weak. -Struggling with your mental health does not make you weak. -Flare-ups or breakouts from conditions or illnesses does not make you weak. -Feeling overwhelmed does not make you weak. -Feeling angry, frustrated, guilty, lonely, hopeless or ashamed does not make you weak. -Mistakes don’t make you weak. -Exhaustion or overstimulation does not make you weak. -Having limits does not make you weak. -Taking breaks does not make you weak. -Changing your mind does not make you weak. -Having needs does not make you weak. -Sensitivities don’t make you weak.
The more I reflect, the more I realize how much energy it’s taking to process the grief that’s these past three years has weighed on my body, my heart, and my spirit. And even though I push past every time, I’m still tired.
Is anyone else like me? Where navigating the World is overwhelming some days. Where I try my best, but still it’s hard not to compare my life to others. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to live life as if I was another?
Where you asks the questions that don’t matter, but still blossom into ruminating thoughts. Like, will they accept me? Or, Can someone love me, too? Maybe, will I ever really feel free to be myself, 100% myself, without worrying that I’m too weird or different for the eyes that witness me? Perhaps it’s the sicknesses that plague my body that dictate my fate after all?
Who can love me, too? I ask myself as I wake up in an anxious puddle of sweat dripping down my burdened shoulders.
Maybe, just maybe it’s possible. The love. The acceptance. The bliss of freedom to be myself without fear.
I ask the universe to allow me that freedom. Right now, I manifest that freedom. I am free from the drought of shame, grief, and guit. I am worthy of the love I seek because it seeks me too. I am ready to receive.
Sometimes it feels like we’re always waiting; waiting for a new healthy love, a better job, a fresh start. We might become restless, losing hope in continuously wanting something we don’t have yet. We become engulfed in the what ifs of an ever-changing future.
But what if we’re not supposed to be waiting or anticipating? What if instead, we just live right now? What if we decide and declare what it is we deserve, hold that close, and focus our energy on being present today? What is for us, what we are working for, what we put our efforts into, will happen in alignment with the decisions we make in the present. What we are doing now shapes the moments that follow.
Create and craft each moment to reflect what you want. Create the person you want to be in every moment.
The future is a collection of already made decisions. Once we reach “the future” it will just be the present in that shifted moment. All that matters is right now.
Words are powerful. Once we identify as something we set ourselves up to the conditions of that label, behavior, belief, sickness, emotion, or way of being/thinking. Once we do not meet the criteria set by those conditions, we feel a loss of identity and belittle the extent of our human experience. There is more to who we are.
Resonate and relate without identifying. Allow yourself to experience the limitless opportunities of existence.
In the journey of higher consciousness is the transformation and heightened awareness of the self. The ego death is the process of moving past the self’s initial definion — in the context of trauma, duality, and bias, not reverting back to trauma of trigger responses, black and white thinking, or surviving. Instead, this “death” is a surrendering of sorts to a new way of thinking and practiced awareness to rewire and create a reality that is reflective of abundance and wholeness.
The ego, in its creation, thrived on the limited perspective and perceptions of the child, an infantile thinking. As growing older permits, a new birth of understanding pushes it’s way through in order to pave the way for change in the process of enlightenment.
To become enlightened, to awaken, or to elevate means to make space in your consciousness, space not allowed previously due to ego expectations and standards. This new space will allow for intuitive thinking, unconditional love of self, and integration of shadow.
As the process of ego death is painful, as it means letting go of conditioning, it is the process of alchamizing the infantile mind to one of radical self-acceptance and self-awareness. This process allows for seeing and knowing who the self really is in its power and abilities.
The self no longer needs the validation or acceptance of anything outside of itself. Everything needed lies inward.
Affirmation: Everything that I need, I already have. My reality is created by me.
Without the hustle and bustle of an everyday routine of “work, ” it can become draining and confusing to figure out what purpose means. Because we’re used to linking who we are to what we “do” we often forget that we aren’t what we do, we simply…are. We exist and that, in itself, is purpose.
Awareness of the present “self” is appreciating all that “we are” in the absence of work. Who are we when we are not working or performing tasks? How can we bask in the simplicity of being?
Note: Focusing our attention on “doing” dictates our actions and goals to define success as accomplishments achieved only by something we can perform through our behaviors and actions. Therefore, when we are not actively “doing” much of anything we lose our sense of self and purpose. Shifting our focus to “being” allows us to appreciate existing when we are not/cannot “do” anything.
Acknowledging that we have worth and value, not because of “what” we do but because of “who” we are (already) helps us to understand our fundamental “being.”
Affirmation Challenge: When waking up every morning, begin by affirming and manifesting the words, “I am.” By understanding that “doing” doesn’t define purpose, we can view our expectations of ourselves with gentleness, approaching each day with gratitude and grace. Existing and living how best we can outweigh the constant assumption of having to do more to fill our sense of self.
Reminder: It’s okay if some days are difficult to even get out of bed. Those days are our “being” days. It’s okay to focus on being.