Love does not only mend and improve the bonds we have with each other but also liberates the relationship we have with ourselves. Creating pathways and pockets of grace to face the challenges of our childhood trauma, survival habits, triggers, and attachment to expectations.
When we open the door to love ourselves unconditionally we create bridges to enter parts of ourselves we are used to hiding away. We welcome wholeness and alignment. We accept every part of who we are. Love becomes the language that guides our inner dialogue and helps us to understand our next steps.
As we love ourselves unconditionally and unapologetically, we can love others the same. We interact and speak with others just as we would ourselves. Let love in. Let love create the way.
Image quote above will be made into a sticker for my Etsy shop at the end of the month!
Allow yourself the experience of processing what is happening around you. Whether you feel grief, shame, or anger, maybe happiness, hope, and joy, perhaps even neutral emotions like boredom, emotions direct you in understanding what each moment means to you. Listen to your emotions and your body. What you need to know or learn right now is being shown to you. Pay attention.
Choose a butterfly and follow the prompt that goes with that butterfly.
Orange butterfly: List three things that make you smile . Blue butterfly: where is your favorite place to go to relax? Yellow butterfly: describe a moment where you felt brave.
Note: feel free to choose more than one butterfly!
I choose the orange and blue butterflies. Orange butterfly: Three things that make me smile are my dogs, spending time with my family, and sharing my mental health story to help others feel empowered. Blue butterfly: My favorite place to go to relax is my bedroom with all of my pillows.
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Want to know how to feel your emotions and grow in self-awareness?
Start by understanding how your emotions feel in your body. Do you feel anxiety or fear in your stomach? Maybe stress as headaches or body fatigue? Identify the body sensation with the emotion that goes with it. Listen to what your body is telling you and learn how to honor your body’s needs.
What is your body telling you today?
My body is telling me to slow down and not push myself too hard. My body is also telling me to work on my insomnia and get more rest.
Notice patterns and habits that you pick up from parents, guardians, or family members. The awareness that your behavior resembles that of those who raised you can aid in understanding who you want to be. Some of those behaviors are toxic cycles being passed down through generations. Do you want to continue those cycles and behaviors? It’s okay to go on your own path and do something different. It’s okay to break cycles you no longer want to continue either with yourself or how you raise your own family. Change the course of your life. Break cycles that don’t serve you and your growth.
Friendly reminder that relationships, whether romantic, familial, or platonic deserve to be tended to with effort, consistency, balance, reciprocity, and respect.
Note: You are not “too much”. It’s okay to stand up for yourself. Accept only what you deserve.
Side Note: Having needs doesn’t mean you are “needy.” Understand the work you need to do within yourself to grow in self-awareness. Know the difference between what you need from yourself and what healthy balanced relationships looks like for you.
Not everyone you meet will be apart of your story. Not everyone you know will remain in your story. The ones that stay, return, or want to make the relationship work regardless of the challenges and differences will be well worth the effort.
It’s okay to be gentle with yourself during transitions in your life. Whether it be moving to a new home, changing doctors/therapists, trying something new, starting a new job/change in finances, changing schools, losing friends, experiencing a breakup, grieving the loss of a love one, or letting go of someone you love and care about, transitions are difficult to cope with.
Learning to adjust and adapt to change is challenging and that’s okay. Know that you are not alone and you can give yourself time to grieve whatever it is you are moving forward from.
Give yourself permission to feel whatever emotions come up with change and reach out if you need to. Your feelings and experiences are valid no matter how “big” or “small” the change.